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People asking for cash/giving gifts anyway

Alejandra, on December 8, 2019 at 6:14 PM Posted in Registry 0 10

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Hi all,
I’ve seen some posts about why it’s rude to ask for cash on an invitation. First off, I totally agree. It’s unnecessary and tacky. However on these posts I’ve seen answers saying that, BECAUSE the couple was rude and asked for money, they bought them a physical gust anyway. This seems contradictory to me? Like why bother? I know it’s rude to ask for money and I completely agree, but if I got an invitation like this I would just give them cash while rolling my eyes. Why bother wasting my time, money, or effort getting them a gift they obviously don’t want? Any thoughts? I’m interested to think what other people think.

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Latest activity by Pam, on December 9, 2019 at 10:42 AM

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Kristen · on December 8, 2019 at 6:30 PM
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I would say maybe instead of asking for cash because I can see why that may come off a little improper just do a registry that goes toward the honeymoon. I am unfamiliar with this but aren't there Registries where people can basically give cash anyway?
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Sexypoodle · on December 8, 2019 at 6:45 PM
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I guess because a gift is actually the GUESTS’ selection, so they can give whatever they choose (and some people don’t want to give a monetary gift). Registries and such weren’t always a “thing”. Technically registries are just the couple’s preferred suggestions. But no one HAS TO get an item from a registry or donate to a honeymoon fund or give cash etc.
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Alejandra · on December 8, 2019 at 6:47 PM
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We’re going a registry so this isn’t for us. It just seems silly to me that I’ve seen people purposely give a gift just to spite a couple that asked for cash. It’s rude to ask for cash but I can’t see myself going out of my way to give a gift in this instance. I was just curious!
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Cassidy · on December 8, 2019 at 6:50 PM
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I don’t like to give cash gifts/gift cards. So I give a gift.
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Kelly · on December 8, 2019 at 6:58 PM
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Some people just prefer to give a physical gift no matter what. We had some random gifts given that we didn’t ask for even with a registry.
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Cher Horowitz · on December 8, 2019 at 10:09 PM
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I second what Kelly said. It is what it is, though!
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Ivy ORP · on December 9, 2019 at 10:08 AM
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We had the same thing. Luckily for us they came from people that we're really close to and they brought us very personal, meaningful gifts we absolutely treasure. Oh, and the literal bucket of booze from my newest niece. LOL
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John Smith · on December 9, 2019 at 10:22 AM
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Make your registry on Zola and you can give your guests the option of giving $$ instead of a physical gift. You can deem it "funds for first house", or "honeymoon cash". That way you're not asking directly!
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Alejandra · on December 9, 2019 at 10:23 AM
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Oh it’s not for us lol. We’re doing a registry. I’m just surprised some people still bring physical gifts when the couple asks for cash (even though I agree asking for cash is rude).
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Pam · on December 9, 2019 at 10:42 AM
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If couples prefer cash, they should set up a very small registry or none at all. People will get the hint. I'm giving a GIFT, and if someone tells me outright what to get them (be it cash or whatever) without my asking them, that's extremely rude and I'm going to ignore it and choose a gift that I am sure they will enjoy. If I ask, then fine. But to TELL me unasked? That really rubs me the wrong way, Cash, in my mind, is far too impersonal.
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