Not wanting a bachelorette party

I don’t not want a bachelorette but I don’t care for one. Do you just hate the idea of it or don’t care either way? I’m not into the whole raunchy thing cuz it’s not me and celebrating your last time single because... you’re not exactly single lol. My bridal party is planning one though and I trust it will be appropriate. They want to do something nice for me and it’s not often we all get together due to us living all over the country. If your girls just want to do something nice for you and it’s something you would enjoy I would go along with it but if you absolutely hate the idea then just be upfront now to set expectations before they get excited about planning

My sister wanted to plan one for me and I told her I didn’t really need one... she said “oh but maybe we could have a spa day!?” And I said, I don’t like going to spas... haha, I suggested that it could be something so informal as dinner and drinks, a “last night” before you get married kind of thing.

A lot of people skip out on that or they opt for something low key

It's normal to feel like you just don't have the energy for another event when you've been putting all of your time into wedding planning. What about just having a girl's day? Could be a beach day, paint night, a trip to the spa? Maybe even a game night? Do something to help you take a little mental break from wedding planning but nothing over the top or attention grabbing.

I think that's totally fine. Just tell your bridal party you don't want one, and you won't have one. You could always do something more casual and lowkey if you still thought getting everyone together would be fun?

All I did for mine was me, my mom, and my sister made a special trip to red lobster lol

Were doing a super low key brunch at my apartment and then getting our nails done at a place by my apartment. i don’t drink and we really wanted to have the night to our selves before the big day so we could relax and enjoy each other before we have to entertain guests

I get where you're coming from! A bachelorette doesn't have to be wild - it can be even a simple dinner at home with movies!

My best friend was dead set on not having 1 until a month before her destination wedding... it turned into a quick weekend with me and 1 other friend but it was nice. A night in drinking and playing games (late flight) and a night out at the bars with pool time during the day. It was really nice, nothing crazy.

My girls and I did Vegas in June but we did it as a 40th birthday for my SIL, my 30th, and my bachelorette so not ALL of the attention was up in my face. We also treated it as more of a girls weekend away than anything. We did the everyone wore black and I wore white thing 1 night but no one even noticed while we were out, which I am so happy about and my MOH did some of the obligatory decorations around the house but nothing overly crazy. It was also nice to just get away from wedding planning for a hot second and just be. If you don't want the in your face crazy night, don't do that, but sometimes it's nice to have an excuse to have a nice night (in or out) with the girls

It is absolutely fine if you don't want a bachelorette party!! It seems to be a more modern thing anyway. I was in a wedding where the bride didn't want one and didn't want to do anything so we didn't. Maybe consider some alternative ideas that you can call a bachelorette pary, just to give you a chance to hang out with your girls and have fun! You can do something low key that doesn't make you feel like the center of attention. Maybe a spa day, get massages or get your nails done? Or just go to lunch and do some shopping? Dinner and a movie or a show of some sort? There's lots of different things you can do to celebrate that don't have to be over-the-top or make you feel like the spotlight is on you. And if you decide nothing, that's fine too!

I think you can still enjoy quality time with special friends without going over the top or wild. I am so thankful for the quality time I was able to have with a few special people. I look back on it very fondly. I don’t like the attention either but we had a small group and it was low key. Still fun !