Not registering for gifts but asking for cash.

Politely say "we have everything we need and won't be registering. Your presence is our present." They will likely give cash/check anyway.

"We don't have a registry." People know that cash is a good gift without being told.

We're not registering either. Just telling people we have everything we need. a couple people have responded with "cash it is then!'

There are online registries that you can send money to specific things you want if that's better! Like The Knot has a good one that lets guests give you money gifts towards what you designate like "New House" or "Honeymoon" or even small things like "Dinner out" or "Couples Massage". This way they aren't buying you a gift, but can know what you'll be spending the money on.

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Do you want a physical gift registry and/or a bridal shower? If so, I'd make a small gift registry people can use if they want.

If you really don't want to register for anything, you definitely don't have to - but know that it is very common for people to have a traditional gift registry and a cash fund!

Also the traditional wedding website/registry has gotten so many amazing upgrades!! You can register for experiences, giftcards, honeymoon funds and cash funds. The thing I love about the honeymoon funds and cash funds is you can still separate it out for specific things so people still feel like they're giving you something special (ex: for our honeymoon fund we did $25 for drinks on the beach x5, $30 for a bottle of wine, $75 for a massage x2, etc. etc.) - the money still goes directly into your bank account and you can ultimately spend it on what is most important to you

View Quoted Comment Be careful as many of these sites take a percentage of what you get, just fyi. 😊

I'm asian and they definitely like the red envelopes aha. I did do a registry but I did a honeymoon fund for my non Asian guests

If you can come up with items to add to a registry without too much effort, I don’t think it’s a bad idea if it’s the standard practice for your side. It will give your guests the option of what they want to do. We don’t really have any sort of expectations so far on either side, he has only immediate family attending and I don’t think my few aunts and uncles or gramma will notice if we don’t register, which we haven’t.

I agree with others - you don't have to register anywhere if you don't want to, unless you DO want gifts and not just cash, in which case, go ahead and register. The Asian side won't pay attention to the registry anyway so you're guaranteed to get either cash or nothing from them, and then the Mexican side will either give you cash, nothing, or a gift from the registry. Win-win!

It's super easy to create a registry if that helps at all. I created one on Amazon and just started adding things I want that I'm not willing to pay for myself. LOL! Like a new headboard for our bed, a KitchenAid Mixer, a pasta maker, etc. Nothing I'd ever buy, but things that I wouldn't say no to if they were given to me! Then I deleted the registry because we decided not to ask for gifts. But the point is, it was SUPER easy to make the registry, and Amazon makes it easy because you can set it up so that people can "go in together" on a gift. So like... if someone has $20 and all that's left on your list is expensive items, they can put that towards the KitchenAid mixer and then if someone else does too, eventually they all pay for the mixer. If not enough people pay for the item, you get that money back in the form of an Amazon gift card and you can spend it on whatever you want. Easy peasy.