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Kylie
Dedicated October 2018

Not opening gifts at bridal shower

Kylie, on April 24, 2018 at 9:54 AM

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Hi all! So I know the tradition is to open gifts at your bridal shower. Personally I get anxiety opening gifts from people in front of them. I feel like my reactions are so fake even if I really like the gift and the whole situation is uncomfortable. I have decided I don't want to do that at my...

Hi all! So I know the tradition is to open gifts at your bridal shower. Personally I get anxiety opening gifts from people in front of them. I feel like my reactions are so fake even if I really like the gift and the whole situation is uncomfortable. I have decided I don't want to do that at my shower. I don't really care if anyone brings me gifts anyway because I feel like the shower is time to really mingle and talk with guests because I know the wedding will be so busy.

So I have a few questions. Do I put something on the invitations stating that there will only be games and food? (Like come celebrate with the bride instead of shower the bride with gifts) What should the order of the party be like? I'm all for games, but is that enough to keep the guests happy? (P.S. there will probably be around 75 guests) Also, brides who have forgone opening gifts, were people disappointed? Thanks!

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  • P
    Super January 2019
    PalmTrees ·
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    I SO agree! It’s just a way for people to have to buy you an extra gift, which I think is ridiculous. I think it’s very outdated as it made sense when people got married young and straight out of their parents’ houses. But that’s just me. I know most people don’t agree.
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    Super January 2019
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    You mentioned you don’t care if you get gifts. So first you need decide if you want a shower (gift giving event) or just some kind of celebratory party where the host states no gifts on the invite. Although upon re-reading ut appears you in fact do not want a shower so then just word it however but make sure to not use the word shower and to specify no gifts. I personally think traditional bridal shower games suck and thankfully I haven’t been to one where they do them in quite awhile. If it’s outside you can do yard games. I’d pretty much have a meal and then people can just mingle. If you are specific that it’s not a shower but instead a party, people shouldn’t be expecting anything specific to happen.
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    Dedicated April 2018
    Moriah ·
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    If you don't want to open gifts or even get them I wouldn't allow someone to throw you a shower. Have a bridal brunch or lunch for visiting with people.

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  • Paige
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Paige ·
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    It’s her wedding!!! I personally have social anxiety, and thinking about opening gifts in front of people makes me want to throw up! I would not get offended by not watching someone open gifts for 2 hours!! as long as they sent a thank you note, i would be very happy!!! no need to put extra stress and anxiety on a bride! that’s is your opinion!!
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    Just Said Yes April 2024
    Ashley ·
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    So true. I’m appalled at the thought.
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