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Not having a bachelorette party?

Brittany, on July 16, 2019 at 10:04 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 7

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Is anyone choosing to not have a bachelorette party? A few months ago my maid of honor and I planned things out (she wanted to plan it but asked for my help which is totally fine), but it has honestly turned into me planning and paying for everything. I don't want to at all sound rude about the situation, but I don't think I want to have one at all. As we were planning, the idea of a limo for the bachelorette party was brought up by my maid of honor. She said I should make the $100 deposit and everyone would split the costs (including me paying for my portion) when it came time to pay for it in September. I just have a LOT to pay for, and especially in September, I will be helping to pay off our vendors. I would rather just save my money than throw myself my own bachelorette party, it seems so silly. I've brought this up before (about doing something smaller or not having a party at all) and she seemed a little rude about it, saying she doesn't understand why and what the issue is. Deep down it's bothering me because she had also started planning the shower, but then didn't follow through and my mom has to pick up on it. Now she's doing the same for the bachelorette party. I would be totally fine not having anything!

Should I just let it go and see if the bachelorette party is brought up again in the future? Should I just flat out say that I don't want a bachelorette party? Thank you in advance for your thoughts!

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Latest activity by Rebecca, on July 18, 2019 at 7:13 PM

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Caytlyn · on July 16, 2019 at 10:10 PM
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I would tell her that you appreciate her offer to host, however, the current plans are out of your budget. You’d be glad to do something more low key or skip the party altogether.
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Dita · on July 16, 2019 at 10:16 PM
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I planned on not having one up until like 2 months ago when bridal party realized how close we were getting to the wedding date and nothing was planned so then they threw something together. It’s very low key, which is what I would have wanted if I originally planned on doing anything - we’re spending the day at the spa then going to the casino at night for dinner/drinks. Just a quick overnight and not really expensive.
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Melle · on July 16, 2019 at 11:43 PM
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You can have a different kind of bachelorette. It doesn't need to be wild and extravagant. I spent a day with my girls just doing little activities
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Katie · on July 17, 2019 at 6:12 AM
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I’m not doing anything crazy. We are going to the lake
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Crystal · on July 17, 2019 at 8:10 AM
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Mine took me to the beach for a weekend
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Melissa · on July 17, 2019 at 10:07 AM
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If you no longer want to have that type of bachelorette party, let them know. We are not doing the traditional go out and party type. I don’t know the exact plans but I suggested things like an escape room or paint night to basically just spend time with my girls.
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Rebecca · on July 18, 2019 at 7:13 PM
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I turned down offers for a bachelorette party. All my friends are kind of spread out and none of my close friends are friends with each other so it seemed challenging to coordinate. You can say thanks, but no thanks.
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