Just Said Yes February 2021

Not a fan of my Moh's bridal shower idea...

Kayla, on November 9, 2019 at 5:20 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 6
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My matron of honor - bless her heart - is working her butt off to help me plan, and I couldn't be more thankful! However. She's REALLY into Halloween, where as... I could honestly do without. Just a personal preference. I have never really been into it, even as a kid.

My wedding date is February 6th of 2021, so an October bridal shower is appropriately timed, in my opinion, and I could see her reasoning behind choosing Halloween; it's also on a Saturday in 2020, so it works out well.

I just don't like a party centered around the holiday. Honestly, I'd rather do one in November, and have it somewhat Christmas themed, which is my FAVORITE holiday. I just don't know how to tell her without hurting her feelings. A little part of me also feels like (and this may be a stretch) my MOH may also be planning it themed this way because she never got a bridal shower. I KNOW, I know, I know it sounds bad, but after knowing her for 15 years, it kinda seems like something that might happen.

How do I have this discussion with her? What do I say?


  • Keri
    Expert November 2019
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    Unfortunately I think you need to let this one go. She is throwing you a shower and hosting. If I was throwing someone a party and they said they didn't care for the theme, it would make me feel unappreciated. Unless she asks about your opinion on a theme, I wouldn't bring it up.

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  • Givemeallthepups
    Dedicated February 2020
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    Did you guys already set a date for October? Could you just ask her if she’d be able to push it to November without being explicit that you don’t want it Halloween themed?
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    I personally think it’s rude to accept someone’s offer to host a shower for you and then dictate how they do it. Maybe you could just say that the October date doesn’t work for you so it pushes you into November and out of the Halloween theme.
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  • Samantha
    Devoted December 2019
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    I think at most you can say the date in October no longer works for you and suggest a November date. Other than that, I wouldn’t otherwise say anything to the host about the theme. No matter what, it will be a lovely day and to be honest you have so many people at the shower you need to greet, you won’t even notice the theme. How lucky are you to have a MOH that cares so much about you and is so enthusiastic about planning your shower 😊
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  • Helena
    Dedicated October 2020
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    I'm sorry I have to disagree with you having to agree to her idea. I'm not a Halloween fan myself so I get not wanting to have that as you theme. Have you had an honest conversation with her or even discussed what you would like to do? If she's your MOH she is obviously someone that knows (or should know) you well. I think it's fair to have input on something you are going to be the focus of. Having it so far away timewise should allow for some more discussion on a theme. Good luck!
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  • L
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    I agree with PP's to just say the October date won't work, but X dates in November would be great! Don't give any indication that you don't agree with HOW she's planning it, but you can have a say in the date.

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