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Kennedi
Beginner September 2018

Nobody Rsvp'ing for bridal shower?

Kennedi, on May 25, 2018 at 6:11 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 10
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Hi guys! I am having an extremely small bridal shower on June 9th. I only sent out about 20 invitations to close family members and very close friends. Tomorrow is the deadline to RSVP by and I've only heard back from 4 people...it's a little disheartening considering I'm super close to everyone and pretty surprised that no one else has responded. Feeling pretty down about it. Considering I know everyone really well, would it be acceptable to make a big Facebook message group reminding people that the deadline is tomorrow? I just don't know what to do and I'd feel horrible having to cancel my shower just because enough people didn't come. :-(

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Latest activity by Mcskipper, on May 25, 2018 at 9:06 AM
  • Fiona
    Expert October 2018
    Fiona ·
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    Who I planning your bridal shower? I would have them reach out to everyone instead of yourself. You can help put together a Facebook group and construct the message but it would be more proper for the planner to reach out and follow up!
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  • Kiwibride
    Super November 2018
    Kiwibride ·
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    Well I wouldn't call 20 people really small for a shower and it would be inappropriate for you to be reminding people about an event to bring you gifts. The person hosting the party should follow up with the guests who don't RSVP after the deadline.

    I'm really hoping that when you said 'I only sent 20 invitations' that you were meaning you only gave a guest list of 20 people to the person planning the party, not that you're hosting it yourself although that would definitely explain why nobody responded to the invitation.
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  • firstoneat56
    Master August 2017
    firstoneat56 ·
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    As others said, I’m hoping that this isn’t something you planned yourself. No one should be contacted before the RSVP date has passed.
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  • Kennedi
    Beginner September 2018
    Kennedi ·
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    My MOH is planning everything as is the custom. I am not hosting it myself, just using 'I' in this scenario since I have an account on here and she does not.
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  • Kennedi
    Beginner September 2018
    Kennedi ·
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    Yes, thank you! ☺ I had no idea on the etiquette for this so I figured I would inquire here first.
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  • Amarriedmann
    Expert June 2019
    Amarriedmann ·
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    Actually, BECAUSE these people are close to you, they may be thinking “of course she knows I’ll be there” and don’t understfand the importance of RSVPing. Have MOH reach out to them after the deadline for verbal confirmation. I know as brides anything can put us on edge but it’s a little early to fret about this.
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  • Munchkin9218
    Master September 2018
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    Since the RSVP deadline has not passed I would just hold off. A lot of people consider the "reply by" date to be the last day they can drop it in the mail. So she may receive an influx of them over the next few days. I would let her know that she should let the date pass by three or four days and then begin calling people who have not responded to follow up.

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  • J
    Expert June 2018
    Jamie ·
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    If it makes you feel better only 4 people RSVP to my shower but everyone I invited showed up. I think (atleast the people I invited) they thought you only RSVP to the wedding. Which obviously didn't help plan food and prizes lol
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  • T
    Super December 2018
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    I encourage you to celebrate at your bridal shower even if only four people attend. I am certain, however, that the guests you've invited will attend. Happy planning!
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  • Mcskipper
    Rockstar July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    The host should follow up only after the RSVP date has passed, and it should be done individually, person by person, not as a big Facebook group. A simple “ I haven’t received an RSVP, will you be able to attend” message to each non responding.
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