Kasey
Dedicated June 2022

No word on Bachelorette party

Kasey, on January 14, 2022 at 10:37 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 8
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Hello! My wedding is June 25th and I have not heard anything from my MOH about a bachelorette party. She hasn't even asked what I want to do. Should I be concerned? Would it be rude to ask her about it? I don't want it to be too late and not have any options for places to stay. I'm not looking for anything crazy, just an overnight in a town that is near a lake and has a decent night life (45 minute drive away). I know my bridal party isn't obligated to throw me a bachelorette but I did plan and pay for all of their bachelorette parties (which were multiple days out of town) and would hope they would reciprocate the effort. I think the reason I am also a little concerned is because my FH's bachelor party has been planned since last summer. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

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Latest activity by Sydney, on January 15, 2022 at 7:12 AM
  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    One thing you could do is mention that you're looking at your calendar for this spring/summer, and were wondering if she had any dates that she wants you to reserve for anything before it fills up? I probably wouldn't mention the bachelorette party directly, as they are not obligated to throw one for you (though would certainly be a kind gesture if they did, especially because you planned theirs).

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  • Kasey
    Dedicated June 2022
    Kasey ·
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    Yea, I figured as much. I am not a confrontational person, so something less direct like that makes me way less anxious Smiley xd Thanks for the suggestion!

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  • Cece
    Rockstar November 2022
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    Are you close with your FH’s best man? If so, you could have him reach out to your MOH just as a “heads up” that they are planning your fiancé‘s bachelor party for X date, in case she wants to plan your bachelorette for the same weekend. Or, if you have children or pets that would require one of you being at home, you could have him say he wanted to give her a heads up on the dates so that she does not plan your bachelorette party the same weekend. 😉
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  • Kasey
    Dedicated June 2022
    Kasey ·
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    This is a great idea! Thank you!

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
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    There are several months between now and then. She may be planning something low key and inexpensive that doesn’t require several months’ notice. I wouldn’t stress. You can call and touch base with her.
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  • KYLIE
    Super May 2019
    KYLIE ·
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    Honestly, if your MOH is your BFF, I’d just ask if plans are underway or if she needs dates or ideas from you—not in an entitled way, but in an open, matter of fact way. If everyone else in your circle/bridal party had a bach, it’s unlikely you’ll be excluded and open communication is the best way for everyone to be on the same page.
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  • Candace
    Devoted March 2022
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    Just straight out ask her. A bachelorette party is usually not a big surprise, right? Just tell her you're excited and you want to offer particular dates that you would or wouldn't be open. But it's still early so don't make it seem like she doesn't have it under control. My wedding is in March and their just now planning it for a weekend next month. So there's still plenty of time.
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  • Sydney
    Dedicated October 2021
    Sydney ·
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    First of all, it’s only January. But if you want it planned, then help a sister out. I picked the date and guest list and location and then my friends did the rest.
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