No parties

Not at all! It's not as typical to not have a bridal shower, but it's totally up to you! If you don't want one, don't have one. I will say though, if your only reasoning is because your BM's all live in a different state, don't let that stop you! The only reason three of my BM's were at my showers is because they are my sisters and sister-in-law-to-be. Others can host the bridal shower though.

View Quoted Comment I suppose the reason I don't want one is because I live in Florida and most of our guests live in New Jersey, where we are from. I don't have the money to fly up to NJ because of the wedding and trying to live while planning a wedding. I don't really have any family that could plan it for me plus I'm trying not to put too much on my friends and family financially because they are flying down for the wedding.

Not at all ! All the parties or pre wedding events are really just optional

It's not a big deal at all. I'm not expecting for anyone to throw me one. Sure, if my MOH or one of my bridesmaids or my mom offers, then why not? But, it's definitely optional. It's just another party that needs drinks, food, a venue, invites, etc. Another expense. So I wouldn't worry about it, and others shouldn't be expecting it either. All the best

When someone offered to throw me one, I said firmly that I would not show up if one were held. When people ask, you can just say you prefer not to have one.

It's totally fine to skip the extra things like showers!

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Totally understood! I would just explain that to anyone who asks, you never know, some people may want to host it or travel.

I'm not having one per my request. I just don't need anything is my reasoning. I just want to celebrate with everyone at the wedding

View Quoted Comment Oh thank goodness! I thought that I was the only one.

View Quoted Comment I've told the people who have called and asked and everyone on my side of the invite list completely understands. FH'S family doesn't get it. Once I told them the deal they weren't offended anymore lol

No, it's not a big deal at all. I think probably the reason you're getting so many questions about it is because it is a fairly traditional pre-wedding event. It may be that most of FHs family is used to attending this event for others, but that doesn't mean you should have one.

Sometimes it's a regional or a family thing. I know for every wedding I've ever attended ( a lot) there has been a bridal shower. I only ever heard of brides not having one since I've been on WW. It has opened my eyes to other ways of doing things. So, if you'd asked the question a year ago, I may have had a different answer! lol

But it's fine if you don't want one. Everyone can celebrate with you at the wedding.

View Quoted Comment That’s good! No worries then 😊