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Daniela
Just Said Yes September 2019

No middle name - should i keep my maiden?

Daniela, on November 1, 2019 at 10:56 AM Posted in Married Life 0 9

So, I know there are about a million questions about name changes on this forum, because I've probably read at least half of the discussions.

I am 100% taking my husband's last name (we got married about a month ago). It's important to him and I really wasn't too bothered about changing mine.

I have never had a middle name. I don't know why, but was just never given one (my brother doesn't have one either, so it wasn't something my parents did just for a girl, thinking I would move my maiden over to middle). My last name is very Spanish (my dad is Colombian, and we have a very traditional, Hispanic sounding last name - it also happens to be 9 letters and 3 syllables, so it is quite long).

I'm torn on whether I should make my very long, Spanish last name my middle name. My first name is already quite long, so this would mean my full name is Daniela Vxxxxxxxx Mxxxxx. My maiden name and my husband's last name don't really go together, as he is a McSomething and his name is very Scottish.

So my question is - what are the pro's of keeping your maiden name as your middle name? Any con's of dropping it entirely (meaning I would still not have a middle name, and I would just be MyFirst HisLast)? I know this is a personal decision, but I need help! I don't know what to do. My husband doesn't really care if I keep my maiden as my middle or drop it entirely - he has no preference as long as I take his last name Smiley smile

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Latest activity by Cassidy, on November 2, 2019 at 9:43 AM
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    Lady ·
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    If i didn't have a middle name to begin with I would probably move my maiden to my middle and keep H's last name. You don't use your middle name that much anyway, so it wouldn't really be a hassle that it's long, IMO. I took H's last name but didn't move my maiden to my middle and I wish I would have kept part of my original name. Great that H and I have the same last name now, but I feel a little sad sometimes that my maiden is gone completely.

    Good luck in your decision!

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  • Brianna
    Dedicated December 2019
    Brianna ·
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    I think keeping it as your middle name is a great idea. As you move through life and focus on being someone’s wife, (someday) someone’s mom, boss/employee/friend/etc...it can be really easy to lose “you” in all that. I know a name is just letters thrown together, but after having married young, had kids and lost myself for awhile- I think having it there is a nice reminder of who “you” are.

    I will be adding my maiden name back in to my name when I change it next. No matter who I am going forward, I’m still the same person who started this life so why not acknowledge that?

    That’s my official, lessons-learned-from-experience answer.
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  • Daniela
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Daniela ·
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    Thank you both - super helpful advice! I am now leaning towards keeping my maiden as my middle.

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  • Jodie
    Expert August 2020
    Jodie ·
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    I think if you have an attachment of any kind to your maiden name you should use it however you see fit. If you don't, I wouldn't use it. I can't wait to get rid of my maiden name so I'm only taking FH name. lol

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  • Kaighin
    Just Said Yes January 2022
    Kaighin ·
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    I think even if it doesn't flow you should keep it as your middle name. How often do we really say our middle name anyway? I think it is nice to keep the name you were given and add too it. 😊
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  • Sara
    Expert February 2020
    Sara ·
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    I would definitely turn my last name into my middle name of I didn't have one.
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  • Merline
    Super February 2020
    Merline ·
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    I've never had a middle name either! I plan on moving my maiden name to my middle name and adding FH last name. The only reason I'm not dropping my maiden name is because all of my degrees have it on there and I wont have to order new ones lol (saves me $100 bucks for paper). So in the future when sending out resumes, I can write out Firstname middle name last name and be okay with my degrees still having my maiden name! That's the professional side and I wont have to change my work email lol!
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    Dedicated August 2020
    Gean ·
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    Yeah i don't have a middle name either and i'll be taking my fh's last name but my surname is also super long so i'll just have my name and his last name, way easier for me Smiley smile

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    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    My mom doesn’t have a middle name, and she just dropped her maiden name.
    So, a con for that idea is: some people take the first initial of her maiden name and use it as her middle name initial. It drives her crazy!! Not major, but annoying
    if I didn’t have a middle name, I’d probably move my maiden name.
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