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Just Said Yes September 2023

No bridal party…. Should i have a bachelorette?

Chicagobride, on January 16, 2023 at 7:27 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 4

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My fiancé and I are getting married in august of 2023. We aren’t having a bridal party for simplicity, to cut down costs for us and our friends.

I would love to have a bachelorette but feeling a bit torn if I should even have one. I planned a bachelorette earlier this year and it was insanely expensive and a lot of time and effort. Seeing that now, I feel bad asking one of friends to plan the full event for me. On the flip side, I really don’t want to plan a full bachelorette myself and control all the details, costs, coordinating on top of wedding planning which I’m doing entirely myself.
I haven’t been feeling a lot of support or interest in helping from my friends since I’ve been engaged, and been feeling like they haven’t been showing up for me they way I showed up for them.
I would to celebrate with my friends but I would rather not have Bach add more stressful to my plate or be disappointed in how things go.
Any tips or advice on how to handle?

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Latest activity by Cece, on January 17, 2023 at 7:37 PM

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Whitney · on January 17, 2023 at 8:26 AM
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If you're not having a wedding party, it's bad form to ask someone to plan a bachelorette. You could, however, just have one person stand up with you and ask her to plan your bachelorette.
You could also just skip the bachelorette and ask your friends to go out for drinks with you -- and pay your own share.
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Lynnie · on January 17, 2023 at 1:56 PM
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I like Whitney's idea - just coordinate a night out!! Invite a bunch of your girlfriends to go out with you to celebrate before the wedding! It will be more low-key but also way less stress and planning!!
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Jacks · on January 17, 2023 at 3:39 PM
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I would just ask your friends to go out for a night, without calling it a "bachelorette".
The bride doesn't usually plan her own bachelorette anyway. It's really just an optional thing planned by anyone that wants to do it, not just someone in the wedding party.
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Cece · on January 17, 2023 at 7:37 PM
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Since you’re not having a wedding party, I think it is completely acceptable to plan your own bachelorette. But I also understand not wanting to take on that added stress! I agree with the PPs, just hosting something low-key may be the best route to go. You could even set up a pajama party/sleepover! Or, what about a joint bachelor/bachelorette? Then you’d have help planning
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