Newly Wed Life In Quarantine!

We're not married yet, and honestly I was a little nervous entering quarantine together. We've just created a workable routine. I usually get up earlier and he stays up later, so that provides a bit of alone time. He's also good at making things special: surprising me with take-out, picking up my favorite wine, giving me foot massages. I really think this time is going to help our marriage.

We have been married now for almost a year and this quarantine time has been interesting! The biggest change has been meals. I never cooked aha he didn’t either. We always were at our parents homes to spend time with them and of course the best way to do that is with food and meals. We would go to my moms house 2-3 times a week and then his 2-3 times a week for dinners and that would consequently mean lunch for the next day through the leftovers. but now that we don’t go there much anymore we have to actually cook! And so I’ve found myself being the one to meal prep. So that’s been a different dynamic. But as for alone time we are fortunate to have a large enough home where we can have individual space

Me an my FH (getting married in nine days yay) have been loving together for five months. It was an adjustment because he grow up with siblings and I was the only child so I had to learn to share my space with someone which was annoying but I got over it. It was crazy we were just going to our college classes now where stuck look at each other crazy lol. I think the only thing that’s been working for us is communication and do things together in the house as if we where put and about in the town like we watch tv together cook although we do miss going to the movies out to eat walking at the Sam Houston park are even riding our bike. Just make it as normal as possible it seem like everything it going pretty fine with you and you new husband congratulations.

We lived together for almost three years before we were married. Honestly, the 1st year of living together is the hardest (whether or not you’re married). Hang in there!


Overall, this time has been good for us because our work schedules have been different for over a year. Now we get weekends totally free together. I’m working from home but because he’s temp laid off we see each other and lot more during the week and he’s doing a ton around the house (and more cooking). Daily walks help the stress.

FH and I have been living together for about 4-5 years. The quarantine surprising hasn't been too bad. I'm working from home and he is essential so he is still working 6 days a week. The only time we spend together is nights and Sunday's which is fine because we both have the same attitude and if we were around each other 24-7 idk what we would do, lol.

We’ve lived together for 3 years so we’re relaxed and happy and fine. When we first moved in together I definitely had issues with him but they’ve since been resolved.

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So glad to hear that all is well with you and your hubby! My husband and I have definitely gotten into more of a routine at this point and feel more comfortable with the fact that we're always around each other, but trying to be creative with how we spend our quality time together (other than watching Netflix and cooking a meal) is a challenge!

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Thank you to your fiancé for his hard work during this time! Quarantine's definitely been a challenge for me and my husband with our different personalities, but it's been a great opportunity to learn more about each other. I'm sure with after living together for that long, you and your fiancé know when you need your alone time and when you need your quality time!

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Thank you! I've heard it's the hardest, and we're giving each other a lot of grace and communicating a lot more than we had before! How special is it that you get to spend more time together. My husband and I also enjoy spending time outside when the weather permits it!

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Thank you, and congratulations on the upcoming wedding! It was a big change for us with our different family backgrounds, too. You really learn to have a lot of patience and choose your battles with each other! My husband and I loved going to the movies as well (our first date was going to see a movie), and streaming shows/movies is nice, but it just isn't the same as going to the theater!

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Wow! That is a big change for you two, but glad to hear it's been working out well! We've been enjoying cooking together and trying new recipes! We live in a one-bedroom apartment, so we're a little crammed with working from home, but we have made it work!

View Quoted Comment It sounds like you’re doing great! 💜 Yauh, we almost broke up two weeks after I moved in. 😩 And a few other times. Communication is key. And it helped sharing our childhood backgrounds (not good stuff), to help the other understand our triggers and weaknesses. Now our arguments aren’t nearly as bad and we move through them pretty easily. We have had a few Covid snaps but that’s to be expected.

We've been married nearly 9 months, but we lived together before, so that part's not been hard.

To get alone time, particularly in a tiny apartment: I stay up late, he gets up early. This happened naturally, as our jobs (which we are both furloughed/on catastrophe pay from) are opposite schedules. I think he plays video games, I tend to watch TV shows he doesn't like.

We've done a few "fancy days" - one coming up for my birthday - or date nights. We've got a standing "happy hour" on Friday, that a friend set up. Some weeks it's been more like a giant zoom gathering for hours and hours.

Certainly getting more creative in the kitchen, we've done some creative work online with friends, and trying to reorganize the apartment (some weeks we're better at that then others). I will say we're getting a little weirder than usual, which is hilarious.

Honestly, we're in a hot spot, so we just try to be gentle with each other, and ourselves, because the stress isn't just from being stuck inside.

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Aww, thank you so much! Yeah, we definitely know when we need our space lol. But we have a 3 day weekend coming up for Memorial Day so it will be nice to finally spend some time together!

Off topic, but I'm curious what you are doing for your celebration in September? Are you going to do a full wedding ceremony or vow renewal or just a party since you are already legally married?

View Quoted Comment Great question! We’re doing a full wedding ceremony and then reception afterwards! We want our friends and family to be able to witness the whole thing and be a part of the celebration as if we were getting married that day.

We got married about 3 weeks before stay-at-home went into place in our state. We had been semi-living with each other already (we both would split our time between our places, and maybe spend a day or two apart each week). It hasn’t been too bad. After almost six years of being together, we know when the other needs alone time and we’re able to go in our own little corners and do our own thing.


It’s also been like a lazy honeymoon since both of us are in sales so there isn’t much we can do work-wise with everything closed. So we just drink, cook, binge watch tv shows, hang out by the pool, and walk around our yard. Haha

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Are you worried it won't feel "real" because you are already married? Our wedding was supposed to be May 30th but we had to cancel and have postponed a full year plus until next June. Part of me really wants to just be married and elope or have a super small private ceremony but then I can't help but feel like whatever we do after will just feel like theater and just be for show and not feel the same. I'm totally on board with couples doing whatever is right for them and wouldn't mind attending a ceremony where this happened I just feel so torn and don't know what is right for us.

Awwweeee sweet!!!! Congratulations on your nuptials; this will definitely make your bond stronger.... My FH is essential and I work for myself so I create my own schedule but I'm very happy to say that at the end of the day we both are excited to see each other and be safe in our quarters away from all the craziness...

Hi Anna! Congrats on your wedding

I can tell you my experience (sorry for the long post). FH and I have not gotten married yet, BUT we started working together 2 months after we started dating, and moved in together 7 months after (we've been together for 5+ years). Needless to say, working and leaving together for most of our relationship hasn't always been easy, but like someone else said, the first year is the "hardest"

The first 3+ years of us living together, we were in a relatively small 2 bed apartment. He likes to play PC games and had his set up in the living room (where I would always watch TV). After working together all day, our alone time would be as soon as we got home, and then around 9 pm, we would spend quality time together. Now we live in a 3 bed townhouse, so that helps A LOT. He turned one of the rooms into his office/gaming room, so while he's working/playing upstairs, I'm downstairs doing my own thing.

I think something that helped me during quarantine was to make sure he had his own time as well. We were working less hours and watching TV most of the day, so I would always tell him that if we wanted to go upstairs and have his personal time, I wouldn't be mad because I could also use some personal time. I know we all need it during these crazy times.

I believe that at the end of the day, the main thing for any couple is communication. Whether to spend more quality time together or more time apart, we have to make sure we communicate what we want.

Good luck!