Need help with Rehearsal Dinner rsvp wording

At the top of the invitation put "Hosted by: ___" and at the bottom place "RSVP to: ___".

Just make it simple.

If you’re doing RSVPs for the wedding online you can add an event and do the rehearsal RSVPs online as well. They you can put the hosts and then write to RSVP on your website. That way it’ll keep track of it for you

We didn’t do rsvps for rehearsal dinner... oops. It’s just immediate family and the wedding party we just told everyone when and where!

Do what Asha said or you could have them send a text RSVP to someone's cell phone or create an email address and have people email their response.

Indicate the host in the first line and the rsvp in the last

John and Katherine Andersen
invite you to join them
for cocktails and dinner
following the rehearsal for the wedding of

__________ and ____________

Friday, October 24 at 6:00 p.m.
Ridgeview Golf Club
Houston, Texas

Please RSVP by October 15 to _____________

This is a common problem you rarely see covered in articles. . Also common is having one delivery address for you personally to receive cards and gifts before the wedding... Then another address to use for anything after the wedding, or a certain date, when you plan to move. This can be on your website. But you cannot write anything about, where to send us gifts on your invitation or information. That is crass. Good manners: You print a change of address form card like a business card. Saying :For future reference: Before this date, we can be reached at: Names, address(es) ,phone, email. After this date: Names you will each use after marriage, with your preferred title, Ms or Mrs, actual name, husband's title and name, new address, phone number. Because both traditional etiquette and common sense both say, gifts for a wedding are sent to the brides home address before marriage, and the joint address within 1 month after, so people do not bring gifts to the wedding , to save couple carrying them around and prevent theft, the enclosure of a current names and addresses card with new after marriage names and addresses is a long accepted separate enclosure. Technically, it is a courtesy for any time now or in the future that people want such information, like to send you party invitations as a married couple. But realistically, it means that gifts will get sent to the right address at the right time. And if you are moving right after the wedding, you can say, during the period...while we are moving, hold correspondence until new address time. So, living and marrying in Georgia, but moving to Colorado? Have gifts sent to new address. Just use the change of name and address card, which is proper, no mention of the gifts.

View Quoted Comment This is perfect. To add to this, you can create an email address specifically for this event’s RSVPs so the responses won’t get lost in anyone’s personal email.

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How does that relate to the question she asked?

Just as she has a 2 address problem with rsvp's, she and many others may have it later in the process too. And clarifying who to respond to in the way people suggested above on rsvp, and also including a long term title, names, and addresses before and after wedding, is standard etiquette. Because your relationship with the invitee is presumed to last after the marriage, and the name address card has traditionally been enclosed so they can extend invitations to you in the future. So I posted it, because as long as she is following the standard accepted practice on the rsvp card, she may as well be completely correct and also give this standard formal card. Lots of people don't bother, because they don't expect to even see wedding guests for a while , once thank you notes are written. But lots of people skip the cards because they do not know this is the polite way to indicate you welcome invitations from them in the future. That it works for addressing gifts is incidental. Muriel, why do you have a problem with this?

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Just checking to make sure you are ok as your answer had nothing to do with the question. Glad to see that you are fine.

Also thought you might have accidentally responded to the wrong thread.

View Quoted Comment No. Proper hosting etiquette isn't about who serves liquor or whether or not you spell out all words on an envelope. It is about treating others with the kindness and respect with which you would like to be treated. It is about reciprocity. So on an rsvp, you provide any address or other info that makes it easy to plan your event. But the reciprocal action is, you make it easy for them to contact you before or after the wedding ,so it is easy for them to extend future invitations to you. A matched set. If you are doing one, multiple addresses to get replies to the person handling your rsvp's, you send the card to them to make it easy for them in the future. No point in picking it over again. ATD, if that is how it stands.

For our graduation invites, I said "Please RSVP by email to ***@*****.*** or call (bride's name) at XXX"