Moving in before wedding

I have lived with my FH for a year now. Our wedding is next year. We even moved to a different state together because I got a job before we were engaged.

I am moving half way across the country to live with my FH next month and wedding is a year and a half away. I think you learn a lot about a person by living with them. Plus moving in together now will be one less thing to have to deal with for our wedding. We can figure out our living expenses together and start saving for the wedding.

My FH had just finished his MBA and didn't officially start his job until the month I moved in with him and we have children to support (I have one from a previous relationship and he has 2 from his previous marriage). We've lived together for 3 years, have bought a house together, he's doing very well at the firm he works for, and our wedding is 8/6. Things seemed to work out well for us, even though we had a tough start.

If you can afford it, move in now once you're approved. If your FH doesn't want you to be living together can one of you live there and the other stay with their parents until after the wedding and then only have a few boxes of clothes to move in?

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FH and I have lived together for three years. We moved in together after a year of dating and bought a house together a year after getting engaged. It was important to me to live together before getting engaged because of how much you learn about each other -- even if you're already spending 3-4+ nights a week having sleepovers. I can't really imagine doing that a month or so before the wedding. Moving all by itself is stressful and moving in with a significant other for the first time has its own growing pains while you guys figure out how living with each other works.

My fh and I have lived together for almost 3 years. Our wedding is next year. We have also moved once while we have been together all of this has happened before we got engaged..we know what our expenses are so it helps when planning our wedding we know what we can afford without taking a loan (and yes I know a few who have taken out loans to pay for a wedding!)

My FH and I moved in exactly one year ago yesterday and got engaged 12/2015 (been together for 6 years). We started planning for the wedding in February. We both lived on our own so there was no way we'd be able to afford a wedding living separately.

Your wedding is in August. So if you don't move in together in June, it's basically just 2 months later that you will. If FH doesn't think you can afford it in June - how are you going to afford it August? Do you both live with your parents now?

Lol we moved in together before we were engaged and both of us being married before it was important to us too. There is so very very much you truly learn about a person when you live with them full time.

I think the whole not living together until marriage thing is antiquated. My FH and I have a 3 year old together and have lived together for about that much time. We moved out together straight from our parents' houses, so not only was it our first time living with each other, it was our first time living without our parents. And to top it off, we had a month old baby. I can honestly tell you that even if I factor out my son and getting used to parenting, simply getting used to living together was a challenge.

There's a reason why some people choose not to be together anymore after living with their SO; it's intense. You cannot get away from them. You learn every weird quirk. The things about them that annoy you intensify. The things about you that annoy them intensify. There's more to fight about. There's more expectations. That's basically my argument for living together before marriage.

Ummm...so my FH and I did things way crazy. We moved in after dating for 6 weeks and it's almost 3 years later. We've been through finishing degrees, lost jobs, & tight finances...so anything is possible.

I'm in the process of moving in with my FH, and we won't be getting married for another two years. It's going to give us time to really become a team as well as plan and save together for the wedding. Things will definitely be tight, but we thought it was important to have this time together. Plus, if we add up expenses of living apart--gas/public transit costs to visit each other, buying groceries individually, rent on two separate places instead of just one--moving in together definitely made financial sense. You have to do what's right for you, of course, but that's something you and your FH really should sit down and work out between the two of you. Don't be beholden to opinions of anyone else.

Woo, we've moved to and from different countries, moved back to the US to a random city on a whim and cobbled together jobs to pay rent for a few months, and now we're getting married, going on a honeymoon and moving again 8 days after we get back -- old hat at this point. We've been together for 5+ years and have lived together for 4.

Things work if you want them to.

Only because his parents don't really like the idea?!?! That's a red flag right there. If he's old enough to get married, he's old enough to make his own decisions, rather than letting himself be pressured by his parents.

Do what makes sense for the two of you. But if he doesn't put his foot down with his parents now, they'll be telling him how to manage his career, how to rear any children, etc.

I think it's pretty old fashioned to wait until your married to move in especially considering most people get married later in life, not at 18. I'm glad we moved in before because moving in a new place was extremely stressful. I did t want to mess with that after getting married.

I would start moving things slowly like a month before the wedding. Before my FH decided to join the army we were going to live at my grandmother's empty house that she left to my mom and aunt and they said he could move in whenever and I could start moving my stuff in the 1st part of October. My aunt and uncle are pastors so moving in before the wedding is a no no from my side.

FH and I moved in together 2.5 years ago. We had just graduated from undergrad and we had maybe 5k in savings between us. We moved 12 hours away from home because I enrolled in grad school in our now-city. Neither one of us got a job until we had been living here for two weeks. I got a part time minimum wage position at a gym and FH got a tutoring job after we had been here almost a month. Things were really, really tight for the first year.

So yes, we did it and survived. We also had the support (emotional and financial) of our families. Moving is stressful- I would not want to do it the month of the wedding. But I also dont recommend moving if you cant afford it now, but could after the wedding. Do as I say, not as I do!

Hey there! I know how tough that can be. I am in the same situation. Right now I am living with my folks and my fiancé lives on his own. While I spend a lot of time with him, my family has very strong Christian values and prefers that we don't live together either! So basically what we are Doing is finding an apartment we both like, he is moving in a couple of months before the wedding and I will gradually move my stuff in. Perhaps you both could do something similar? I'm not sure what your living situation is right now or else u could give u more advice!

I've lived with my FH for 3 years. Money is tight, but it's worked out fine. I think maybe you should ask him why he doesn't wanna move in together.

My FH and I have been together for 7 years. We bought our home 3 years ago.