Money instead of registry

If your guests wouldnt be offended by that then I'd go for it. Most on WW will tell you its tacky and terrible etiquette to ask for money. We just didnt register and everyone has said they're doing cards with cash since they dont want to get us stuff we dont need.

View Quoted Comment I don't think my guests would find it tacky. Some of them might and oh well to them if they. I would love for my guests to do something like that. I was even considering put it in the invite and even setting up a PayPal account as an additional option to cash or check.

Most people will tell you it's tacky. I think they recommend just not registering... however we registered for Lowe's giftcards at Target lol!

I think the website you mentioned will take a % of the money your guests give you which would stink.

I would say just don't register and people will most likely give you cash. I'm not familiar with that website, but I know a lot of them charge a processing fee, so not all of your gift money is really going to you. The majority of the wedding gifts we got were cash and we had a registry, so I don't think a special site is needed. A lot of people on here will tell you it's tacky, but regardless of your opinion on that, the fact that not 100% of what your guests give will go to you is reason to not do it IMO. Good luck with your wedding and your house.

View Quoted Comment That's a good idea too! I didn't even think of the website possibly taking a percentage of the money!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Deidre!

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Your guests will find it tacky. They will be too polite to say so but they will think it is tacky. Why risk it? Please no poem in the invite, they don't want a poem to tell them how to give a gift. To even suggest that gifts are expected is rude and in bad taste.

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Any mention of gifts wanted, whether through a registry or cash, should never be mentioned with your invitations. Also, not having a registry or a very small one is a clue to your guests that you prefer cash. You don't have to outright ask for it.

Setting up Paypal accounts and telling your guests is super tacky. Would you put a blank deposit slip in the invitation? You shouldn’t mention gifts at all. You aren’t a minority in living together, most couples on here do. People know you bought a house that’s old. If they choose to give a gift, they will know you are already set up in a house.

We registered for 4 things & are hoping everyone else will gift cash. We have lived together for 4 years.

I definitely wouldn't call it "Tacky". regardless of if you ask for money or registry items you're asking people to buy/ pay for something.

I think in todays world, where things aren't done like when our grandparents got married (moving in together for the first time after the wedding) its normal to want money to pay off credit cards/ the wedding/ house payments opposed to asking for a coffee pot and cook books.

i think the idea of doing a registry but with things like "fixing the deck" or "new kitchen cabinets" is super cute!

I've seen this done 3x and never once thought it was tacky and was glad to be provided the option. I'd much rather gift them something I know they want and/or need rather than being presumptuous enough to assume they need more crap.

Don't worry about the wedding police on here. Do what you think is best.

A registry is available if someone requests the information. Straight up asking for cash from guests isn’t. If someone ASKS if you have a registry you can tell them that you don’t because you have all of the hoosehold items you need and are working on your house. See? No need to be brash and rude and tell people to give you money.

I've seen it and didn't think it was tacky. I also heard from other family that they liked it cause it felt like they were helping them with something specific instead of just giving money. (Even though in the end you can do whatever with it)

I saw these on pintreast and thought it was cute, a week later i recieved a wedding invitation and that was on there so i think its more of "todays thing" then we may think

View Quoted Comment It isn't cute. It isn't a today thing. It's rude. Don't register or have a small registry and people will give you monetary gifts.

Lol! Listen you know who you are inviting to your wedding, you know how they will feel if you asked them for money instead because those who you are inviting should already know your situation. Only way I find it tacky is if it’s included on your invitation. That is what your website would be for. They told me not to ask for gift cards. Guess what, I registered for gift cards to my favorite home stores. We had just bought a new home and my guests said they were glad I asked for gift cards because they didn’t want to get anything I wasn’t going to use. I registered for things I needed for our home and I received those plus a bunch of gift cards and money. If you don’t let it be known what you need don’t assume people will just give money. You have those that will show with nothing and you have those that will bring an actual gift that will not need nor want. Follow what you want to do. If they talk then let them but most will be glad to contribute to something helpful.

Thank you all for your suggestions and advice. I've received quite a few invitiations with information on where the couple was registered. I, honestly, don't believe I've ever received one without that information and I wouldn't think to go look at the wedding website for the information. I really appreciate everything!

View Quoted Comment I agree. We don't want stuff either so we just didn't register which is usually a hint to most that money or gift cards are preferred.

We considered doing something similar (yay for buying old homes!) but ultimately decided that it might rub people the wrong way. We decided to have a VERY small registry on Amazon. We won't tell anyone about it unless they ask. The stuff on it will be things that we could use an upgrade on (ie: new towels, blanket and comforter sets, a new vacuum, etc.)

Most people (in our scenario) won't ask and will just slip some money into an envelope. So it's asking without actually asking! I do have a lot of family too - namely my grandparents - who always ask "no really what do you WANT? Money? Gift cards?" and at that point I would probably just tell them money since that's just how they operate haha.