Money instead of gifts

There are cash fund options but usually if you just don’t register anywhere then people would get the hint to give cash

I would suggest doing a small registry somewhere where you shop a lot. Some people are sticklers for getting things off a registry, no matter how nicely or bluntly you phrase it lol, and that way when you inevitably do get gifts you can return them and get a gift card somewhere you actually regularly use. Plus a lot of registries add gift cards on there for you automatically so it’s a little more polite than cash.


I had some friends who wanted cash towards their honeymoon instead of gifts. They wrote something along the lines of “We have so many lovely things, but we would love to see the world after we exchange rings. Instead of a gift wrapped with a bow, we would appreciate a contribution towards all the places we shall go” I thought it was really cute and I think for the most part people stuck with the Honeymoon fund.

View Quoted Comment That’s a super sweet way of putting it I could not think of a way to hint nicely that if you give a gift give cash so I will for sure use the honeymoon idea with a cute message! Props to your friend!!

We call it a wishing well here in Australia. I’d say 99% of couples do it.
If you were thinking of giving a gift to help us on our way.
A gift of cash towards our house would really make our day.
However, if you prefer a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own special way.

Or something similar.. heaps of examples out there (and not necessarily just for cash towards a home deposit)

Hmm... maybe you could make a registry for somewhere you shop a ton (target, walmart, etc.) and literally only put a gift card on it? It's unlikely that the message would go over their head if you did something like that. Otherwise, maybe say something along the lines of "if you would like to send a gift of cash, it would really make our day" or something along those lines. I would say even if you guys didn't register, most people would probably get the message. I'd like to assume that if they were being invited to your wedding, they'd know you well enough to know that you guys already have a house together, but maybe not. Good luck 😊💕

View Quoted Comment This is the most perfect idea!!!

View Quoted Comment I second this! It’s interesting because so many Americans think wishing wells are rude or tacky but in Australia they’re definitely a normal thing and most of the crowd don’t see an issue with it - then again we are also more straight to the point with things 😂


I would 100% do a wishing well card with your invitation suite / website - this is what ours looks like!

We just didn’t create a registry and on our wedding website under the gifts tab we just put, “the most important thing is to have you with us on our day. Gifts are not expected or required but we have been asked what we need or like, and if you’d like, a donation to our honeymoon would be a delight!”


You can make up something like that. Or nothing at all. Guests will usually default to cash if you don’t have a registry.

Dont have a shower or a registry. If you do have a registry just do a small one.
We had a pretty big registry and still got mostly cash at our wedding. I think we got 4 gifts and only 1 was from the registry. Most people automatically give money at a wedding. Showers are for gifts.
My cousin asked for money and I found it rude. As did my mom so I’m sure others did too. AND they had a shower which made it worse. I got her a vase.

This is what I put on the wedding website and on the invitation insert - NOT on the formal invitation.

"No registries. Your personal physical gifts of love or monetary gifts will graciously be accepted."

And since we live in a world of technology and convenience we provided our information for digital money transfers, .i.e. Zelle.