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Rebecca, on January 15, 2018 at 6:47 AM Posted in Registry 0 23
Okay so my fiancé and I have already lived together for a few years now, so we have already acquired a lot of home goods and kitchenware items. So that being said we have decided we would like monetary donations for our honeymoon instead of a registry of gifts. How do we say this in a polite way to our guests?

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Latest activity by Jalyn, on July 27, 2019 at 10:32 AM
  • Sarah
    Master June 2016
    Sarah ·
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    You aren’t a charity, so these aren’t donations. You don’t mention gifts to guests because gifts aren’t required. Don’t have a registry and people will get the hint that you want cash.
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  • A
    Dedicated September 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    There are registries that are for honeymoons. Honeyfund is one and there are a few more. I think that would be better than just not having one at all. Usually people give money for a wedding anyway.
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  • GoodPrincessButtercup
    Devoted May 2018
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    Yes as someone else commented this is a hot topic on these forums. Many people, especially old fashioned people, think the honey fund is tacky. I think it’s adorable and have had fun giving those gifts. That being said, you have to do what works for you and not listen to all the noise from everyone else. What I’m quickly learning is someone will always have something negative to say. You can’t please everyone.
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  • MsToMrs
    Dedicated September 2018
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    Do this. Don't ask for money in any fashion, just don't have a registry.
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  • The Bride
    VIP May 2017
    The Bride ·
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    Seeing "Okay, so..." at the beginning of a post has started to become an omen.

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  • EngineerInLove
    VIP September 2018
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    Honeyfund and all of the other sites take a fee from every purchase for themselves. None of them are good, otherwise they would be free. The only "free" option is for people to write a check.

    No registry at all is better than a honeymoon fund.
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  • Sarah
    Devoted May 2018
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    Don't make a registry at all. People will either give you money or they will give you a nice gift that you'll graciously accept. That's what polite people do.
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  • Sarah
    Just Said Yes June 2019
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    My fiance and i are in the same place as you! We'll have lived together nearly 7 years by the time we're married so we dont want things. We registered with travelers joy- they let you set it up so people are buying a nice dinner out or tickets to a museum on your honeymoon. We're also going to use photos of us doing whatever they purchased as personalized thank yous post wedding. I feel like this way they wont feel like theyre just handing out money and we're not ending up with a ton of material things. Zola also offers options like this!
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  • Jurnee
    Expert May 2019
    Jurnee ·
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    No registry. People will take the hint.
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  • Amanda
    Master October 2018
    Amanda ·
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    If you have to ask a polite way to ask .. you shouldn't do it .. it's rude and I'm sure you know that . Simple no registry.. most people give cash anyway it's 2018 not 1950 .
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  • Mrs. Fall Bride
    Master October 2016
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    There is no polite way to convey that to your guests.

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  • Lauren
    Expert June 2019
    Lauren ·
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    Just don't put anything about a registry and if people want to give a gift they'll give you money
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  • DoctorSq
    Savvy May 2022
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    I have seen it written in ALL the invites I have gotten (like a little note that they include apart from the actual invite but with it). And I have seen this done in over 5 of the weddings that we have attended. It is a style thing, some people say its rude, for me its just honest and that way you don't have to deal with getting stuff you do not want and with people still asking where you are registered even when they have not gotten any information. Some people are not very good at getting the hints. If you still need help with how to write it reply to ma and I will look for an example of one of the invites we recently got.

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  • Megan
    Expert June 2018
    Megan ·
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    It’s rude. Full stop. Calling manners old fashioned doesn’t change the fact that asking for money is rude.
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  • DoctorSq
    Savvy May 2022
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    Ou will never please everybody and people on WW are very opinionated. There are ways to say that you dont want gifts and its not asking for money. Just because you haven't seen it done before does not mean it does not exist.

    If the grooms prefers it that way there is
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  • DoctorSq
    Savvy May 2022
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    I hit enter before finishing....

    If the bride and groom prefer it then people just need to get over it and if they find it rude then they do not know or truly care about you. If people know you and care for you they wont mind. Also ots 2018, registries are more old fashioned. I do like the honeyfund but you have to think that they have a fee for what you collect.
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  • Orchids
    Master March 2018
    Orchids ·
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    There is no polite way to ask for money, just don't register and people will take the hint.

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  • LaraLouM
    Super May 2019
    LaraLouM ·
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    You should search the forums... this topic has been beaten to death... sigh
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  • Margarita
    Dedicated December 2017
    Margarita ·
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    People rarely give physical gifts at a wedding anymore. I got married 3 weeks ago and got ONE physical gift, the rest was cash. Why are you seating gifts so much? It’s not about gifts, it’s aboyt marrying the love of your life. So relax and enjoy any gift that is generously given to you.
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  • Jalyn
    Dedicated August 2019
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    Many family members asked us if we were registered anywhere and we said no because we don't really need anything, if you could help us with our honeymoon, that'd be nice, if you can't that's okay too. We already have a fully decorared Studio, a registry would just be waste of money. We really just need money, to be honest but i won't hate anyone if they can't give us anything. Money is money, you're asking guest to spend money somewhere. I'm sure they'd rather spend money on something you want, than something you don't care to have.

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