Mixed Emotions About Wedding

Look forward to getting your pictures back. Once you see them, you will remember the good moments and see that everything didn't look as bad as you might think it did Hang in there!

"I could use some advice on how to best move past the day which wasn’t as smooth as most brides seem to have."

The first thing to do, honestly, is to stop telling yourself the story that most other brides have perfect wedding days. That simply isn't true. Most weddings have at least something that goes wrong. And comparing yourself to others never gets you anywhere good.

So, the biggest issue seems to have been the weather, which you know perfectly well no one can control. So, why focus on it so much now? You talk about it as if the rain decided to personally make your day miserable. Stop giving weather so much power over your feelings.

Now is time to bring all of the good memories of the day and your new spouse to mind. If you put your effort into that, the unfortunate memories will fade away.

Thank you so much for your compassion. Yes, we plan to honeymoon in New Zealand in a few months

Yes. First, we canceled our wedding due to covid and deployment then got rain on the day. It was a little challenging since last year it was 80 and sunny lol . I am going through the process and I am grieving it so I can move on versus pretending I was not affected at all. I did see the post-wedding blues and those posts have also helped me a lot

That's such a great idea. Once our photos come in we will pick our fave and put it up in our living room

YES, that's great advice

This is so inspiring I am glad we did it in the rain as some of the pics don't even seem to show the rain. I need to re-watch these episodes for comfort lol Thank you for your compassion.

Thank you so much

Thank you for your input. I know you mean well but your delivery is a bit harsh. We had to cancel our wedding twice due to a deployment in a volatile area and then covid. Then it did rain when we finally did our wedding. It's human for me to feel slightly discouraged and even compare what the weather was during the last two occasions we could've married. It's simply a process as some others have said, its is OK to feel sad and then pick myself up and move on from the events of the day.

Like I said in my post, I was looking for some compassion and advice here versus a further beating down on how I'm handling the process two days after my wedding, and why or how I am hurt.

We are all different dear as humans--some of us simply feel a bit deeper and a harsh word when a dog is down isn't always helpful. I thank you so much for your input and wish you well.