may wedding / coronavirus

It's great that you're being mindful: public health and safety is paramount over anyone's wedding. I'm a professional in the wedding industry, and I've just advised all my brides and grooms to cancel or postpone their March and April weddings, and to be prepared within the next two weeks or so to maybe do the same with May weddings. We're about 10-14 days behind Italy when it comes to the virus and their initial casual feelings about the virus have now lead to a country-wide lockdown and hundreds of deaths. Contact between people (even those feeling totally fine) can spread the virus on to people who are at risk (immunocompromised in some way) super quickly, and in order to give medical professionals an opportunity to get a handle on things, staying home and not going to any non-essential appointments or outings is pertinent. They're closing down restaurants, bars, and theaters, and people get much closer (hugging, celebrating, sitting in aisles/pews) to each other at weddings than they do at those places.

Sorry about how things have turned out for you individually here--it's definitely been frustrating for brides and grooms getting married anytime soon. Unfortunately, I'd strongly suggest postponing the whole thing for peace of mind.

I don't think it's considered rude when you're just following the CDC recommendations. My wedding is just before yours (May 15) and others are reassuring me I'm good to go because I'm outside of the 8 week window. But it's not like week 8 will be isolation and week 9 will be back to normal life. I think it's better to have the contingency now, maybe hold off on invites besides your "essential" people, and play it by ear. Let others know what you're thinking so no one is caught off guard and can potentially work for travel/accommodation refunds if they were planning on it. Maybe you still get to have your idea wedding if everyone takes precautions, but the way people are treating it now (like their weddings/events/plans supersede public health) I don't expect things to start turning around that quickly, and I wouldn't want to be the cause of making it worse for people that have to deal with the repercussions. Good luck and wishing you the best!

Absolutely agreed. I can't even imagine how awful that would be.

Thanks so much for your kind words! I wish you all the best (health and happiness!) as well