Married friends!!!!

I’ve been learning that’s part of life. Friends that aren’t in the same life stage and/or relationship status will begin to have less things they can relate to you with. My husband and I have a few single friends we still hang out with, but that’s because those are our ride-or-die, know our brains like the back of their hand, “call me whenever you need anything” best friends. There was recently another user on here lamenting about the same thing. Need to vent about your MIL? Attending 2 Christmases during the holidays was tough to coordinate? Friends that are married would be the ones that can truly relate to you on that. Of course not to say that you can’t be friends with singles anymore. It may be that you’ll have to dig a bit deeper to make sure you’re conversing with them on a subject they can relate to and not have the entire time spent together talking about married life topics.


As far as making new friends with others, perhaps organizations or clubs that are about an interest or hobby you guys have. If y’all are into hiking, seek out local hiking groups on Facebook/other social media sites. If y’all like cars and coffee, I’ve heard of this event called “Cars and Coffee” held on Saturday mornings around different areas of a city (not sure if it’s nation-wide though). Meeting people in a group built on an interest will help make introductions that much easier because you can talk about something both parties love: that shared interest.

It probably is mostly that they are not married and thus not relatable to you in your married state. The other part is that the covid lockdowns have scarred people and have left many people less sociable. Maybe you can get in a community group where you meet other couples and have friends built around those activities.

I have a slightly similar situation finding like-minded adult couple friends. My husband and I make an effort to meet couples without kids. Our other friends with young families are lovely, but I don't want to limit my social life to child birthday parties in NY. We make adult friends at charity events, house parties, and at the bar. Haha, places where children don't roam. You have to try a little harder texting for meet-ups, but I think adults yearn for more friendships but are more shy about it. If you have active hobbies like yoga, hiking, or jiu jitsu, you can often meet one half of the partnership, then plan a couples night. Or try networking at alumni events and maybe you'll meet couples who met at school and are of a similar age. Real life isn't like the series, "The Best Man" so just let it evolve but you know, like a dating app, you both be on the look-out. Good luck.

SAME 🙌🏼🖤🌸



Life in general can be tough of course. But especially once your married and get more thrown into ‘adulting’ 🤣 like whether you’re already in or finding your life long career, bills, spousal relationship maintaining… the list goes on. It’s gets so busy and hectic and stressful just with those things alone.
And it’s hard for me to not just find the time but also to connect well with others also. Which I find is because they’re super busy too.
It just gets kind of sad and discouraging.
I also have had some friends and family move out of state. So really I only have pretty much just my husband. And while i agree with what you said about yours is how I feel about mine. He truly is a blessing. And he is my everything and my best friend. I don’t want to depend on him that much for being my husband and also trying to fit him into the hole of my heart from having no girlfriends. But also im just stuck. :/
It’s difficult. I tried finding friends on bumble and it was fun and found some girls I could connect easily to, however between the charges and just having a hard time connecting with women who were in different time zones it just didn’t even up working the best for me. Perhaps I’ll get back on it again. But we’ll see.
Don’t give up hope though!
Friends can find you (just like how spouses can) when you least expect it!!
Hope you find some girls asap that connect well with you and are local so yall can easily hangout 🖤🙌🏼🌸