Marital Pillowtalk

Nothing is off limits, but in general we like to relax in bed together so we more joke around or talk about happy stuff. If we're going to gossip or complain it'd probably be while we cook dinner or clean up dinner.
Anything to distract from the mountains of dishes 🤣

There’s absolutely no subject we don’t talk about!! We hold zero things back from each other. With the exception of our best friends tell us in confidence. That’s rule we don’t break to each other, nor do we ask what’s going on.

We talk about anything. Could be childhood memories, exes, analysis of our friends, news, watch YouTube or FB vids and laugh for hours. Mostly we have different sleeping schedules but I'll crawl into bed and share that time together sometimes.

We talk about everything if you can't be vunerable with your SO then who can you be vunerable with?

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Anything that I talk about with my best friend and she asks me not to repeat to anyone is off-limits during pillowtalk.

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I agree that things that my best friend tells me in confidence is off-limits.

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Having a variety of topics to discuss helps to keep pillowtalk between my husband and I fun.

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Good question.

View Quoted Comment My friends and I have a general rule if you don't want our husbands to hear it don't tell us, only life or death situation would justify not sharing with our spouses.
But because we all share the same beliefs on this topic it's easier for us, if my friends didn't share the same beliefs it would likely be a struggle.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely!!! That’s one thing that’s important is our friendship before our upcoming wedding. If one of my friends or vice versa calls and want to talk within private about something we don’t ask questions. We respect each other’s friendship.

View Quoted Comment That's a good agreement to have in your friendship to avoid unwanted sharing with spouses.

View Quoted Comment Does your future husband have the same understanding with his friends?

View Quoted Comment Absolutely!! That’s one thing (of many) we talked about before we got engaged.

View Quoted Comment I need to talk to my husband about this now, lol.

We have some off limit topic, to which we have a "conversation safe word" that will either just pause the conversation for now because we get too heated, or not go back to it at all. However, we really only have one conversation that is off limits because it is about one of his friends who had a bad habit of consistently cheating on his girlfriend. Typically the conversations we even refrain from are the ones that we can't control/don't effect us other than annoyances.

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Having a safe word during pillowtalk is a unique touch.

My fiance is my best friend (we were best friends for about a year before we actually dated and that's never changed ) He jokes around with me about the girl drama that occurs every so often but when it gets real, he gets really protective so sometimes I don't bring up every little thing that happens so he isn't resentful towards anyone lol.

When one of our close friends has something extremely personal going on we still tell each other and based on some of the responses I'm reading that might not be the best thing to do but we genuinely don't ever tell anyone else and if the person brings it up to the one of us that wasn't originally told about it, we don't tell them we already knew. I think it helps us if we're sad / worried about our friends to pray for them together and discuss our worries/ frustration.

View Quoted Comment I love the idea of praying for your friends together.