Mama's boy

How long have you been together? Has it been an issue in the past?

What is causing you to question this? Was there a specific incident where your fiance took your mom's side and you thought it was unfair?

View Quoted Comment Yes, we've been off and one for about two years. This was actually the first reason why I initially broke up with him.

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So you already broke up with him over this, what makes you think it will be different for the long haul?

View Quoted Comment I over did it in gym and his mother had to be admitted in the hospital the night before. She got clean bill of health and he stayed home to go to the hospital to check on her. I'm not upset by this, but more so by the fact that didn't bother to make sure we where okay. I've been barely able to move today and needed his help with our 2 year old

View Quoted Comment They will be 5 states away in the next year

You can't expect your FH to change when you get married. It isn't a magic spell that fixes all your problems, in fact getting married she might be more involved especially if you decide to have kids. If it is something you can't deal with if it doesn't change I would recommend waiting on getting married until you figure out if that is a hard stop for you.

View Quoted Comment Thanks, I'll make sure to take that into consideration

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The way I read this was that you being sore from working out was more important than FH's mother being in the hospital.

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His mom was in the HOSPITAL and you were mad he gave her more attention than you when you over did it at the gym? Oh hunny. If this is what you're mad you will probably never be happy with anything he does.

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Yeah, I'm going to have to agree. When a parent's health is on the line (or anyone, for that matter), that takes precedence. Everything else is secondary. If the OP is unhappy with this, then the future looks bleak for their marriage.

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One year isn't "the long haul."

Anyone in the Hospital trumps you being sore.

If his mom had a "clean bill of health" they would have discharged her. Even if he just went to pick her up or check on her after she was discharged, going to the hospital is way more traumatic then being a little sore.

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My FH is a bit of a mamas boy himself so I get it to an extent. I am lucky she is very careful with me she read a book when her daughter got married about being the mother in law when your son gets married. How if their wife doesn't like you how she can control the time you get to spend with them as a married couple and grand kids. I wish I knew what the title was we could send it to her anonymously but maybe you can find it by googling the subject. Maybe expressing how you feel to him you can do it to her and have her set that boundary.

What did you need help with?

How *sore* are you that you can't take care of your kid without help?

Unless you pulled a muscle and can't walk?

That's exactly way happened

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What exactly happened? Did you communicate to your FH that you needed help?

I can understand being frustrated with a mamas boy. I have never experienced it, but frankly, it sounds like a real turn off. With that being said, anyone in the hospital trumps being sore from the gym.

It sounds like youre due for a serious talk with him or possibly couples counseling.

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Did you communicate to him that you needed help and he ignored you? Did you get into a fight and he didn't come home?

I'm having trouble figuring out the whole context of this, but it sounds like something deeper is wrong if you guys can't work out a pretty cut-and-dry situation like that...my FH's dad is in the hospital from time to time and even if I need help with something, I will drop everything or change any plans I need to to make sure he can go see him. We don't have a kid so that might complicate things..but unless you were seriously injured and communicated this fully to him and he ignored you, I'm not seeing where he was really in the wrong. But as I said I don't have the whole story.