Maid of Honor not in Wedding Party

It’s not weird for someone to plan the bachelorette if they aren’t in the wedding as long as they offer. It’d be weird to give her a title if you aren’t including her in the wedding though.

Sure she can plan it but it will be odd to give her the moh title if she's not your moh.

Bach parties are thrown in your honor, so you really don't get to dictate much about them. How far is NOLA away from where you are currently? Anyone can offer to host any pre-wedding event for you, but still... if she's that close of a friend to you, I'd just put her in your wedding party. Don't give her a show-title, though, and then decline to ask her to stand up with you--or whatever your bridesmaids are doing--during the ceremony.

The “bridal party” literally describes people who are your MOH and your bridesmaids. Saying you want to give her the title of MOH but not have her be a member of the bridal party is totally contradictory... it’s like saying someone is your sister but she’s NOT your family.


It’s also rude to ask someone to plan your bachelorette party as is... even if she is your MOH and in your bridal party. You really need to wait for someone to offer to do that, especially if you’re expecting it to be a large expense. There’s really no polite way to ask someone if they’re willing to throw an expensive getaway for you... ESPECIALLY if you don’t even plan on having them be in your wedding.

View Quoted Comment Thanks, I just wasn’t sure if I was supposed to give her an official role.

Thanks for all the input.