Long Distance Relationships/relocating

1) Pack light. Part with everything you can stand to part with, its way cheaper and easier. Don't try to move everything. Do an inventory of what's already there, sell or give away 95-100% of your furniture. Pack sentimental things with care

2) Be kind to yourself and one another in terms of adjusting! It's a big change to go from long-distance to living together! You may find you feel cramped for space, unsure of how to balance your time apart and time together, or just overwhelmed, overstimulated, or easily annoyed. This is ok communicate and don't be afraid or offended if one of you needs to literally say "I need some space". It's a normal part of adjusting, and while it's healthy to have a little space and individuality, it's tough to find that balance at first. I think this book is fantastic for learning positive communication strategies with your significant other, no matter how long you've been together- The Power of Two, Susan Heitler https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1572240598?psc=1&ref=yo_pop_mb_pd_title

3) Branch out when you get there! When I first moved to NYC to be with my FH, I didn't have any friends. I found some great people with common interests on Meetup, and it helped me balance out my time and have a social life outside of always spending time with just my FH. We both made new friends in the process.

4) Good luck, it will be great!!

Me and my husband did long distance while we were dating for about 2 1/2 years. When we bought a house together I said the only thing I require is separate spaces. PP is right that it is a HUGE adjustment because now you see each other everyday as opposed to once or twice a month, if you're lucky. I won't lie, me and my husband had some serious growing pains to where I wanted to move back to NJ, but it all worked out in the end and it's so natural and much easier now.

Don't get discouraged if you can't find work right away. I was lucky that when I first moved to Pittsburgh my company in NJ paid for me to fly back weekly so that I could still have a paycheck while looking for work out here. It's hard to find a job when you've just relocated. I found a lot of places wouldn't even look at my resume since I had zero work experience out here. I was able to land a consulting gig and stayed there for a few months to have the "local experience" then moved into my permanent position.

Definitely learn to ask people out on "dates". Seriously. I knew two people out here and I had to make friends! I started asking women I worked with out for drinks and put together girls' nights out with the mish-mash of women I'd started talking to and telling them to invite their friends too. It was so awkward for me at first but it's gotten much easier.

You'll probably be homesick for a while when you move. Before you leave, I'd schedule your first trip back just so you have that to look forward to. It helps with the homesickness.

Good luck!

So I haven't moved because of a long distance relationship, but I agree with what PPs have said about the moving aspects. Sell all that you can part with, it makes everything so much easier. Ship things ahead if you can. Join a gym, find a local rec league, go out to a book club, insert yourself into a local trivia league, something to kick start making friends. And it's definitely going to be a little bit of a culture shock at first, but like Victoria suggested, knowing when you're going to go back home is a huge comfort.

My husband is from NY state and I'm from the Dominican Republic, after our ceremony I'll be relocating to NY with him. It'll be easier for me because I lived there for 2 years. I'm giving away most of my clothes here and I'll try to pack as light as possible.

Both my fiance and myself will move.

I'm heading back home to England first to find work. When I land the right job that earns enough for two years, we will marry and I can apply for him to live with me. It's a couple of years away for us at the moment, but I am very anxious about going home. I've kept sorting through my stuff to cut it back as much as I can bear. What I have discovered in doing this is just how much junk I had that I never even used! It was eye-opening.

I am trying to get into minimalist living too, so it certainly helps with that.