I feel at a loss. My best friend reached out to me last weekend and said her uncle has a german shepherd that he needs to rehome because he doesn't have time to take care of him. My husband has always wanted a german shepherd so this appeared to be a good opportunity. The only problem is he was very adamant that he wants a female for a variety of reasons. This one is a male and he is almost a year old, not FULLY trained. But we decided to watch him for a few days to see how things go and see if he's a good fit. We have a Golden retriever girl and over the last week, he has had many accidents in the house, (which I expected to some degree while he gets used to the home) but there are other issues. He's very overweight and he plays super hard with our golden. Her ears are always crusted with his slobber and I'm brushing and cleaning them 3 times a day or more. My life feels much more stressful, as I can't even cook eggs in the morning without having to run down the neighborhood to find Konan (GS) because he ran off. We don't have a fenced in yard, we live in a townhome. Our home just feels more chaotic overall and I truly, in my gut, feel that it would be better to wait until we upsize our house and get a female that we can train well with our other dog. My husband is very upset and wants to keep him. He doesn't see the stress I deal with at home because I work from home, and can't focus when they start playing and fighting in the house. In our past life decisions, I have been very flexible. He bought a motorcycle two weeks before our wedding ( I was not okay with this but he did it anyway ) we rushed buying our home so he could buy the truck he wants (we couldn't buy it until the loan was finished) so we settled. I just feel like with big life decisions I haven't had a chance to truly put my foot down when something feels off. If we end up keeping the german shepherd, I will feel so resentful and bitter. I am constantly caving into what everyone else thinks is best and not myself. I am so stressed all the time and this is more responsibility that I'm not ready to take on. I'm not saying no to getting a german shepherd, just not right now. Am I in the wrong to ask him if we can wait it out a little longer until we have more space and we've enjoyed being a married couple without more stress and added responsibilities? I wish he wouldn't downplay the way I feel. He acts like I don't do anything during the day. Just "play and clean". I am trying to start a business while still working full time. Meh. SOS..