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Blag, on June 14, 2019 at 8:20 AM Posted in Married Life 0 9
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My fiancé and I were talking recently about how we want to be announced into the reception. He said it is kind of weird for him because his parents have always been Mr. & Mrs. ***** and now we will. For me it’s weird because my last name will be the same as his mom’s and she is quite dramatic and negative and I’ll be associated with that. I want to be my own person without thinking about the negative thought. Has anyone ever been in the same shoes. I know I have to get over it.

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Latest activity by Melle, on June 14, 2019 at 4:03 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    You don't have to get over it. You don't have to take his name, there are tons of other options. Keep your last name, hyphenate, make a new last name.

    If his mom is the only reason you don't want to change your name, I would weigh the pros and cons. I've felt the same way because of my FSIL, but I eventually realized that there are people from every family, no matter their last name, who are negative and dramatic. No one is going to think differently of you because you're related to someone, by marriage at that. If they do, they're probably not the kind of people whose opinions you should value anyway.

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  • Angerra
    VIP August 2019
    Angerra ·
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    Can you just be introduced by your first names and last name instead of Mr and Mrs?
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  • SummerBrideInAutumn
    VIP October 2019
    SummerBrideInAutumn ·
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    I’m adding FH’s last name to my last name (I’ll have 2 last names.) so we are being introduced as Mr. His First/Last and Mrs. My First/Maiden/FH Last. You could do something similar and be Mr. His First/Last and Mrs. Your First/FH Last.
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  • Nicole
    Devoted November 2019
    Nicole ·
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    We are being introduced as

    "For the first time, FH First Name and My First Name New Last Name!"

    So it will be like "For the first time, Jack and Jill Turner!"

    That way my new name still gets to be announced, but in whole, and it's not "Mrs. last name"

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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    You could just be introduced as your first names. Like "Our Bride and Groom John and Jill!"
    I don't think anyone will notice except you two.
    We're in an awkward position where my fiance wants to change his name to mine and we know it'll get a comment. So that's how we're telling his family.
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  • Michelle
    Super August 2019
    Michelle ·
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    We're going to do something similar to Nicole but it'll be more like Mr. and Mrs. John and Joan Smith.
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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
    Katie ·
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    I'm having a hard time with this as well because my FSIL and I have the same first name so I don't want it to be awkward if they announced Mr. & Mrs. both our first names and the the new last name, it would make me think of his sister and that would be awkward to me.
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  • Wendy
    Super August 2021
    Wendy ·
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    I’m not taking my FH last name and we will be introduced as “the newly married couple”!!!
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    You can even leave out the last name and just be introducing the happy couple, the new Mr and Mrs.
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