Husband and I have been married over a year now and we decided early on that neither of us wanted his last name nor to hyphenate both names due to obvious teasing that we would have to deal with for the years to come (James and Lebron, the reactions are always the same) so we wanted to come up with something new entirely. We spent months throwing names back and forth and finally decided on one but it sounds better with his first name than it does mine, most of the name choices did.
Well we didn't get around to changing it right away and then the pandemic hit. So now that the courts and everything are opening up more husband has been asking about doing it now. The problem is I really like my last name, its always been who I am and I honestly feel sad and panicked about it going away. To make matters worse I don't know if I like the new name choice still, it just doesn't feel like a good fit for me anymore, but husband has his heart set on it. Its important to the both of us to have the same last name and I think he'd feel hurt if I wanted to find a different new last name and maybe find a way to keep my current last name too. Because of our state laws we will have to petition to change to a completely new name and its an expensive process so I want to figure this out before shelling out this money.
Has anyone had any similar or same issue? What did you do?
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