January Wedding - when to have bridal shower & bachelorette?

This might just be me, but thinking about how busy things get from November-January for us I'd much prefer a shower for a late January wedding to be before Thanksgiving. I think it mostly depends on your guests and what they usually have planned during that time of year. If your families go all out for the holiday season then one less thing to have planned during that time is considerate. If they pretty much have like 3 things going on then something at the beginning of December isn't too bad.

View Quoted Comment Yeah both my family and my fiancés family are huge with a lot of different holidays and traditions so ideally I was hoping to avoid November/December altogether for any wedding-related events but I don’t want it to also be odd having a bridal shower and/or bachelorette in say, September/October which would be 3-4 months before the wedding.. that’s not too far away from the wedding right?

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I would think in your situation it wouldn't be weird. Obviously the people attending would be closest to you, and that's a pretty easy thing to explain if anyone asks. I'm sure once they know the reasoning behind why you chose to have them so early they'll be thankful.

I'm getting married in September and my bridal showers are going to be in June, so three months before. I don't think there is anything wrong with 3-4 months before, and it's simple to say "we didn't want added stress/travel/expenses for our guests right before the holidays and the wedding"

Our wedding was January 19 and we had our shower the Sunday after thanksgiving. People could shop Black Friday, it was a month away from Christmas so it wasn’t too hectic. I didn’t want to do it after Christmas as I felt it would be too close to the wedding and stressful for me.

All of my bridesmaids are all over the place too. I'm getting married March 2023 and Ill be holding the bachelorette and shower the same weekend this coming October. My mom and sister are planning the shower for a saturday or sunday morning and then we'll have the bachelorette over that same weekend so everyone only flies in once for both events. My best friend did the same thing for hers since she wasnt local and her mom threw the shower in our hometown. Then she only had to travel once. Everyone loves that plan and I loved doing it for my friend.

I like Cassidy's idea of shopping on Black Friday, and having the shower after thanksgiving. Alternatively have the shower and bachelorette at the same time frame, if your MOH plans to attend it might be easier for her.