Jack & Jill vs separate parties

I honestly would just let it go since he turned down the idea. If he was interested in this idea, I'm sure he would have said sure I'll talk to my best man about it.

Let it go. Most bachelor and bachelorette parties are separate

You offered another option and he declined. Let it go.

I didn't want to make a whole new discussion for the same topic and I can't edit my previous questions, so here it is. Hearing what some of you said is nice. I was unsure if I should press further but now I know not too, however it leaves me with another question: What did previous brides do when they didn't have a bachelorette party? I only have two people in my bridal party, one is a guy and the other is a mother. I'm not really interested in drinking or doing anything big and sadly, I'm an extreme introvert.

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Many brides don't have any bachelorette party and don't replace it with anything. I wouldn't stress but your guy friend might do something fun for you.

Rather than a raucous bachelorette party, you could have a nice lunch and spa day with your bridesmaid and bridesman. Or you could do a fun sleepover with them- order in pizza or Chinese, maybe have a few glasses of wine, play some games, do some face masks, watch some cheesy rom-coms (or get brave and scream together at a horror movie)

Also, it looks as though your wedding is still another two years away. So you have TONS of time to think about that- bachelor and bachelorette parties usually do not happen until a few months out from the wedding

View Quoted Comment I’m not doing anything for a bachelorette party. Spend about a week on WeddingWire and read through the forums and you’ll realize that not having a bachelorette party and only a small bridal party is probably the best decisions you’ll made through your entire wedding process. #NoDrama

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Im not doing a bachelorette and I have no feelings about it. My FH had his bachelor last weekend

I am an introvert too and i am not having a bridal shower or bachelorette either. I was never into them, honestly. I dont like being the center of attention.

View Quoted Comment I’m not doing a traditional bachelorette party—the bar scene or a trip before an expensive wedding sounds terrible to me. Instead, my two girlfriends and I are renting a house where I live (I’m so lazy I don’t want to clean my house, so that ticks that off!), ordering a cheesecake from a local baker I’ve always wanted to try, and watching chick flicks about a month before the wedding. May sound lame to some, but sounds pretty perfect to me!!

The best thing about having (or not having) a bachelorette party is it is tailored to your likes and dislikes! In the past, my friends and I have had bachelorette parties that included a Renaissance fair, a cruise, an arts and crafts evening, slumber party, house party, casual lunch, fancy dinner, spa, etc. You’ve said you are an introvert, so you might want to consider a quieter, more low-key option— brunch or lunch at a favorite cafe, take-out and a movie, etc. If you truly don’t want to do anything, you don’t have to! Ultimately, the goal of these parties is to have quality time with those you consider the closest to you before tying the knot!

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I also didn't have a bachelorette, and I definitely don't feel like I missed out. All of my bridesmaids lived in different states and scheduling would have been a nightmare. My husband had a bachelor party because several of his groomsmen were local. Plenty of brides don't have bachelorette parties!

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Until tv took a big interest in the bachelorette party, very few people had them. Most people had one party in their honor, shower or luncheon or bachelorette .
Doing 2 showers for different groups sometimes, with no others. And the couple did something to honor the bridal party. If you are not a party girl, and no one offers a bach, skip it. I was in 10 other weddings and one of my own before the first with a bach party. People don't realize how much and how fast tv has pushed new expectations. One for the gals, shower, and one for the guys, bachelor, is great.

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How about a nice brunch? My ladies and I are going to Charleston for a weekend. I'm not a big partier or drinker, so we're just touring the town, checking out gardens, and laying on the beach! A relaxing getaway.