So I'm a bridesmaid for the wedding of my best friend, who I've known since pre-k. We have the bachelorette party planned for this summer, and the date we decided on was one I didn't think I had any conflicts with at the time. However, something's now come up, and I'm not sure what to do.
A local community theater I've done many productions with is putting on one of my absolute FAVORITE shows this summer. I've always been a theater person, I've been performing since I was seven, and though I don't ever plan for it to be more than a hobby, it is important to me. The issue is that the opening weekend of the show is the exact same weekend as the bachelorette party, which I've already committed to. My question is, does it make me a horrible person to skip out on the party in order to be in the show?
I mean, there's always a chance I might audition and not even get in, making this a non-issue. But I do think I have a really good shot at not only getting a decent part, but my dream role, which is what's making this decision exceptionally hard. I should add that, up until I knew the performance dates, I was over the moon excited to audition. I was working really hard to prepare, I've watched every rendition of the show available on YouTube... It's a big deal for me. But I also know that celebrating a bachelorette party with your best friend is a once-in-a-lifetime thing.
My only thought is that I could make it up to my friend by taking her out on a one-on-one girls weekend where I'd pay the expenses, but I don't know. Does that make up for missing one of the big moments of her wedding? Am I a horrible friend for even considering this? Brides and brides-to-be, how would you feel if your friend didn't attend your bachelorette party because she loves theater and desperately wants to be in a show?
I should also add that the bachelorette party is out of state for me, about a four-hour drive away from where I live, and it's supposed to last Friday through Sunday morning, so there's really no way to make both work.
Thanks in advance for any advice you might have or insight you might give. I appreciate it!