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Is anyone else bummed about parties during covid?😟

K, on July 31, 2020 at 1:55 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 9

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I know I should be grateful. Thrilled that I even get to still celebrate. Happy that I’m still getting married. First, I gave up my dream wedding. Now, my dream parties. I know lots are bummed about their weddings, but anyone else just super bummed about their bridal shower or bachelorette parties? I know it’s not about the wedding or parties n such, but I’m especially sad. I have a group of 6 girls who are all getting together for a Bach party. The Bach party I always dreamed of (flying to Vegas, NY, to the beach) I was alright to give up because I didn’t want my bridesmaids to foot the bill for that anyways. But even with covid, I thought maybe it would still be ok to go to a large cabin where we could all socially distance and have our own bedrooms. But almost all the girls are uncomfortable and strict with that. I get it, I understand, it still saddens me 😞 We’re going to go to a couple outdoor places throughout the day, which is great. But it won’t be the crazy fun Bach experience. It’s not like I can let loose on a covid-restricted restaurant patio than a social-distanced cabin. In addition, we’re ending the night at my future in laws house... Because no one is comfortable being inside and it is the only private outdoor space we have access to (we all live in apartments). But my in laws?? I love them but I find it weird to be at their house for my Bach party. All his family will be home too.. great. Then afterwards I’ll be dropped off, drunk and by myself, because no one is comfortable with staying the night at my place. Once again, I get it. I need to be grateful for what I CAN do. It’s just really hard to let go. I consider my fiancé lucky.. his groomsmen planned a weekend/overnight. But they’re still gonna be safe.. masks, social distance, not going out anywhere. The thing is, my fiancé doesn’t even care to have a bachelor party... he’s more introverted and would rather chill out. Which makes me more disappointed and upset. He’s getting what I want and I’m getting what he wants. I was showing white dresses to my MOH to ask her which one I should wear to the Bach party... and she told me I should dress more casual... like jeans and t shirt casual. So much for a bachelorette “party”. 😔

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Breanna · on July 31, 2020 at 2:44 AM
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I’m sorry. I’m sure you are sick of hearing it... but I really am sorry. Non of this is fair. I get when you say that it could be worse, and that you are grateful... but when other people aren’t in your shoes they don’t know what it feels like. I throw myself a pitty party once a week... like seriously. I get takeout food, I eat in bed, and I just watch movies all day and I cry. I’m a very emotional person ( chemical brain imbalance) but it’s what keeps me going. My fiancé is super super supportive and he really holds back for me.

Straight up I still had my bach party, my bridemaids didn’t care... we all knew the risks but all of us hadn’t been to work or out in public much. ( mainly all teachers) BUT we didn’t get to go out and go to bars wearing our sashes and taking cute pictures... IT WAS HEARTBREAKING. I struggle on the way home feeling like I had been cheated out of something I dreamed of. Then things started to get more lose in my state and I was on top of the world! Then just this pay weekend a mask mandate. I’ve been contemplating postponing but at this point I want to get it over with- how sad is that?!

But I’m here with you... I feel you and I understand you. People joke that covid bride is a dumb thing to say, and that it’ll all work out but that’s not enough for me. I want what I planned, this is a once in a lifetime ordeal ( for most people) and it’s flashing by with a ton of anxiety, stress, and sadness.
I wish I had advice for you, but if your bridesmaids don’t feel comfortable that’s their decision and I’m glad you are accepting of it. But I say throw yourself a pitty party, let your emotions feel valid. This crap is really happening wether you have it worse than other or better than others YOU CAN BE UPSET! Comparing what you are going through vs what others are is like comparing oranges and apples it just doesn’t work.
Perspective is important to remember but you acknowledge that this isn’t the ‘worst thing’ in the world right now... but for YOU it might be. I wish you nothing but the best. I hope that you know you aren’t alone... in right with you!
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Samantha · on July 31, 2020 at 3:43 AM
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I'm sorry for the disappointment. Have you voiced this to your friends?
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K · on July 31, 2020 at 6:24 AM
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Honestly, I've made it clear to my friends that I still expect a bachelorette party. It'll just be after I'm married, since it's too risky right now. Nothing really change about the party, since I already feel like I'm married to my guy. I think we just need to alter our plans, not get rid of them entirely. I think your friends will still be thrilled to celebrate when we finally can properly.
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Sarah · on July 31, 2020 at 7:23 AM
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I’m so sorry to hear that! We did just as you mentioned: a socially distanced cabin! We went out to wineries and even amidst the masks and social distancing it was the most normal I’ve felt as a bride. So I get it. Your feelings are valid and i agree with PP. throw yourself a pity party! But also express how you feel to your girls. Maybe suggest a park? Over your inlaws house.z
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Sexypoodle · on July 31, 2020 at 11:24 AM
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Things kinda suck right now, life isn’t normal and there’s little we can do besides make the best of it! They way I see it, you’ll be with your friends so that’s an automatic good time. To me, it makes everything surrounding the wedding more memorable (I mean, who can forget COVID weddings/postponements and pandemic parties🥳). Plus, it’s not as if everyone doesn’t understand the reasons for the changes.

But I’m the opposite. Well before postponing, I told my friends that I didn’t want any pre-wedding parties when when they asked. We’re getting married in Vegas and everyone has to travel there, so that’s going to be a fun weekend already. If anything, a “modified” shower is preferred.... which would be going with my girls to a spa, hanging around the pool in a large cabana and then dinner (if that’s an option next Fall).
Either way, I know you’ll have a fab time regardless.
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Annika · on July 31, 2020 at 11:36 AM
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I feel this!! Right now we are 4 months out from the wedding and I haven't heard that anyone is throwing a bridal shower for me, my bridesmaids never respond to me and any time I bring up the possibility of a bach party or what I would want they seem disinterested. I REALLY REALLY struggle with making and keeping friends, and finding bridesmaids was a struggle, so them (seemingly) ignoring me hurts my feelings a lot. And I know its not because of COVID because they aren't very concerned about it since they have been social distancing and etc. I knew I shouldn't get excited for a bach party and shower because I knew it wouldn't happen regardless of COVID but that doesn't mean its not something I still want. I am very introverted, so we could stay home in pjs and watch movies and play games and I would have a blast, it's not like I'm asking for a week long trip or anything, and since I'm across the country the party would literally be one of the days before the wedding so they'll already be here.. Plus my MOH isn't able to attend the wedding due to surgery, her college graduation and she's from South Korea so she's quarantined. She was our exchange student when I was in 8th grade, shes basically my sister and she can't come. This whole thing just sucks so much. Seeing all the other brides on here having the same struggles makes me feel a bit better though, I'm not quite so alone!
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Katie · on August 1, 2020 at 8:33 AM
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It’s all very unfair. We have postponed our large wedding for late next year and are having a small ceremony this year. I am waiting to have my bridal shower and bachelorette party next year (hopefully) because I still want to have them. You are as deserving of those experiences as anyone else. At this point I say there’s no rules, so even if you have to have them after your wedding go for it!
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Dedicated October 2020
Jamie · on August 19, 2020 at 11:24 AM
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I needed to read this response today. I'm having a pity party day, but unfortunately I have to be at work while its happening. Today I'm having such a hard time accepting the way things are, and how its affecting my wedding. I also tend to do the "others have it worse, i should be grateful" thing. Which is true, but the truth is I'm devastated about how this is affecting my wedding.
We're having an outdoor reception in October (indoor short ceremony), which is how its always been, but I'm so afraid that our loved ones will get sick. However, postponing isn't an option. We're getting married no matter what, but its the reception we either give up for the rest of our lives, or put our loved ones at risk. And no one other than "corona brides" understand. Everyone for the last 100 yrs has gotten to have their wedding days how they wanted, so its easy for them to say "its mainly about marrying your best friend". Which it is, but let's be honest, its more than just that. Its about being able to celebrate with our family and friends, and that's being taken from most of us. Again, obviously things are worse for a lot of people, but this is one of THE moments people look forward too in their lives. I'm just so upset that it's being basically taken away. I haven't even worried about normal wedding day stress, its been 100% corona for at least a month. This just sucks!
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Jamie · on August 19, 2020 at 11:26 AM
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And more on topic to the original post, I agree! I had a drive-thru bridal shower and literally NO ONE stayed in their cars. They all parked and walked up and before we knew it, there were probably 25 people standing around talking. Completely defeating the purpose of a drive-thru... i hate that I now look back on my shower day and my first thought is that it was a cluster... i was glad to see family I haven't seen in so long and of course grateful for our gifts, but we wanted to keep people away from each other and they just didn't cooperate. My bach party is supposed to be a cooking class, which I've always wanted to do, but now I'm second guessing being in a room with people for a couple hours (idk if its private class or not). So now I'm just sort of sad about it all!
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