Hey guys! I’m conflicted about the concept of a bridal or wedding shower. Every single bride in my family has had one in the past that was thrown by their Maid of Honor or Future Mother in Law. I have been getting peppered with questions about when mine is, but I don’t have the money or resources to host my own at this time. I just need some encouragement. Is a bridal shower actually necessary? If it is, what do I do?
I was thinking the same way like you. I didn't want to have one. But now that it passed, i'm so glad i did. Because of the virus, we have to have a very small wedding, 8 guest total. All the gifts i got from my bridal shower, helped us a lot. We are both finally moving in together and needed a lot of stuff. Plus it made me appreciate my new MIL. It was nice and i'm so blessed to have had one.
It's absolutely not necessary. If someone offers to host and you're excited about it or feel like it will be a good bonding experience then by all means, go ahead. But you're under no obligation to have any parties leading up to your wedding.
No pre-wedding event is a necessity, including showers. If someone offers to host one and you feel inclined to take them up on that offer, great! If no one offers to host one, you don't have to and shouldn't host one for yourself.
We are only having one if someone else plans it. At this point I haven't heard anything about one being planned so I am assuming we won't have one. We definitely don't have the extra money and it's stressful enough planning wedding and honeymoon (especially with COVID) that I won't be adding more to my plate for a shower. If it happens, great, but i'm not counting on it.
They are not required. If someone offers to throw you one, you can decline it if you really don't want one. We didn't want any parties or showers beforehand but my cousin ended up throwing us a couples shower and it was an absolute blast!
Agree with everyone else that they are not necessary. I didn't have one and didn't want them. I know I am in the minority, but I don't see the point of them. The celebrating that happens AT the wedding is sufficient celebrating for me.
It's most definitely not necessary at all! It's your wedding and you can have whatever events leading up to it that you want, or don't want. You get to call the shots! Personally, I am always in favor of bridal showers. I think they're sweet! It's one of the few times in your life where it's all about you! It's ok to make a registry and ask for whatever you want; you won't necessarily receive it all and you should never expect gifts, but people want to gift you things you need/want for your bridal shower and so it's ok to want them. I think it's nice to gather the important women in your life and have them celebrate you as the bride. On your wedding day you won't have nearly as much free time as you'd like and you won't get to spend much time with all those women. It's nice to gather them before the wedding to celebrate and mingle. You can do something low key, maybe a backyard bbq, or a brunch or just lite finger foods or desserts only. Make it whatever you want if you decide to have one!
It’s not a requirement. My parents and bridesmaids offered to throw me one, but I just didn’t see the point considering my 3-day wedding weekend as already jam-packed with events. I opted to do a casual Disneyland day with my bridesmaids and friends instead (all of us have passes) so it wasn’t expensive at all. My parents instead just gave me the money that they would have spent on the bridal shower.
So if you don’t have anyone offering to host it and you don’t want to host it, don’t feel obligated to do it. If you actually do want one though— do you have a bridal party that will host it for you? What about your mom? All the bridal showers that I have been to have typically been hosted by the Mother of the Bride.