In desperate need

I need a few pointers here ladies... I am the furthest from girly. Sure I do my lashes and nails but there are literal reasons behind those. Without lashes im a naked molerat, without nails my brittle ones would be like razorblades and I work in a field where my fingers get smashed alot... sooooo ive never dreamt of my dream wedding, ive never been soft ive always been tomboy. But this man brings out the feminine energy so now im planning a wedding and trying to find a beauty crew, now im not sure who is responsible for that cost... I dont have parents and am paying for this wedding between my spouse and I. Same thing goes for room accommodations for guests and all the bridesmaids and grooms men's attire.
Is it asking too much for them to buy their outfits? Or pay for their rooms? Please help.