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Savvy October 2019

I’m upset with my wedding photos

Lauren , on April 24, 2020 at 11:19 PM Posted in Married Life 0 15

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I guess I just came here to vent... I’ve been married for a few months now. The day was nearly perfect and my married the love of my life, but I have this nagging, painful regret about our wedding photos.

I just wish I could go back and change them but I know I can’t. Our photographer took beautiful pictures, but there were a lot of shots that were missed. We didn’t get a single photo of the two of us with both of our families, only shots of each of us with parents and grandparents, but no siblings.
Our photographer was very friendly but looking back I wish that she would have had more direction. I don’t remember (and neither does my MOH) the photographer mentioning a group family shot or to include both of us with our respective families. We also didn’t get any photos with the flower girls, which breaks my heart because I’m very close to my niece and my little cousin—neither me or my MOH recall the photographer mentioning these shots either. My heart also breaks for our families. No one mentioned feeling left out of the pictures, but I worry that there may have been some hard feelings that they didn’t want to bring up.
I feel like this is partially my fault for not giving a shot list. I wish I did because looking back, I was way too overwhelmed and hungry (we did photos after the wedding) to ask for those shots. Did anybody have a similar experience? Am I stressing too much about this?

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Latest activity by Fred, on March 7, 2021 at 12:35 PM

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Karla · on April 24, 2020 at 11:25 PM
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Hi! I was married in February of this year. My photographer took beautiful photos as well and I‘m unhappy with some of my photos because of my dress bustle (coordinator’s fault, not photographer’s). We were running late so we missed quite a bit of family photos and key ones, but again not photographer’s fault. I believe my coordinator messed up our list of photos that we gave to her that she was going to pass along to our photographer.

I totally understand where you’re coming from and feel for you. How many photos did you get? Overall, are you pleased with it?
Unfortunately, unless you retake the photos, there really isn’t much you can do about it.
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Savvy October 2019
Lauren · on April 24, 2020 at 11:28 PM
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Yeah, I know there’s no point in dwelling, but it still nags at me, ya know? We got around 200 photos back. Plenty of photos, but lacking in shots for sure. What kind of pictures did you guys miss?
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Karla · on April 24, 2020 at 11:58 PM
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Wait— how many of the 200 photos do you absolutely love? Or even like?

I didn’t get one with my flower girls, one with just my siblings without husband, one with my family without my sister-in-laws, veil fanned out photo (coordinator’s fault), one with my grandma, one with both my mom and sister, one with our ushers, bride and groom with bridesmaids, bride and groom with groomsmen, one with both sets of parents, me with MIL (and same for husband with my mom), me with FIL (and same for husband with my dad). Wish we had more with our wedding party.
My husband and I definitely plan to take pics for our first anniversary in our wedding attire to make up for the dress issue though.
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Melle · on April 25, 2020 at 12:08 AM
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100%. I feel you.
Same for me. I took loads of photos of me and my husband and our wedding parties but there were still shots I didn’t get and I essentially have no family photos other than with my dad and bro. But I didn’t get any with my mom or with his husbands family. We were so so down on time and rushed and I wish I had designated more time or was not so fraZzled that day.
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Rebecca · on April 25, 2020 at 1:27 AM
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I'm sorry you're upset with your photos.
Have you reached out to your photographer? She might have unedited photos that she hasn't shown you, which might contain shots you wanted?
In addition, would it be possible to restage some of them at a later date?
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Emily · on April 25, 2020 at 9:25 AM
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I’ve always kind of heard if you want specific shots it’s best to make a list for the photographer.
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Lauren · on April 25, 2020 at 11:58 AM
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I made the mistake of thinking that she would get all the basic shots in. If you’re planning your wedding, please make sure you make one! Don’t be like me and end up regretting it. :/
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Savvy October 2019
Lauren · on April 25, 2020 at 12:01 PM
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Yes!! This is what happened with us too. We had set aside time before the ceremony to do family photos, but my mom has to get her hair redone which made me and the other girls run behind at well. I wish we had at least designated more time to get ready. I’m sorry you didn’t get a lot of the shots you wanted either. It’s tough to deal with because these are the pictures you’ll look back on for the rest of your life. I’m not even much of a picture-taker but I even feel sad about it. You’re not alone 💕
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Lauren · on April 25, 2020 at 12:03 PM
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I loved the ones of our bridal party, people dancing, and the ones of my husband and I together. The pictures themselves are beautiful, but there were just a lot of shots missed that I wish I would have had. I’m sorry you missed out on ones that you wanted too. That’s a great idea to recreate some of those photos!
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Lauren · on April 25, 2020 at 12:05 PM
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I wish that was an option for me. My family all live in Michigan (my husband and I live in KY) and with things being so uncertain right now about travel, I don’t know that this will be possible as the flower girls will probably have grown out of their dresses by the time it’s safe again and it would require a lot of travel just to re-stage photos. I know I shouldn’t be so down about it. There will be many opportunities for family photos in the future—like when we start a family.
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Melle · on April 25, 2020 at 12:15 PM
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Ive got loads of photos that I love but I do wish I had more family ones. That made me feel kind of bad for my in laws because we didn’t really get any. Funny thing is that’s also kind of why I didn’t get photos with my mom. I got photos with my dad and brother but not my mom cause she wasn’t there since she was getting ready
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Emily · on April 25, 2020 at 12:23 PM
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I’m sorry 😢that’s something I never would of thought of either until I’ve seen a few posts on here reminding people to do so. I know you’re upset but think of the bright side that you had an absolutely beautiful day! I liked some of the suggestions from other people maybe reschedule another shoot?
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Karla · on April 25, 2020 at 1:47 PM
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I agree with a PP— I think you should definitely reach out to your photographer and see if maybe they have unedited shots that they didn’t include in your gallery? How many hours did you have her for? Did she have a second shooter?

I’m having a hard time believing that she only took 200 photos so she might have not included some because she didn’t think they were good enough to be a part of the final gallery (sometimes people are making weird faces or have their eyes closed). However, considering your situation, if I were you, I would want to be able to see all the photos to see if any of the ones you wanted might be in the “reject” pile. I know I would rather have a pic with my grandma even with my eyes closed than not having one at all.
I had close to 1000 photos in my final gallery and my photographer was there for 10 hours and had a second shooter with him.
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Tracey · on March 4, 2021 at 10:00 PM
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We made a comprehensive list and STILL managed to miss a photo with hubby's parents (don't know how we managed that! I actually think we did but maybe the photographer accidentally deleted the photo because it was in a sea of other photos with family). And we forgot to include "photo with flower girls and page boys" in our list so we had none with them lol.
I consider myself a very very detailed person so when I realized we missed those shots I was beating myself up. I'm trying to remind myself that I'm not perfect and these things happen. Hope you are kind on yourself! Don't beat yourself up! Everyone who is predisposed to regret WILL have something they regret not doing/doing at their wedding.
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Fred · on March 7, 2021 at 12:35 PM
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Is she a profesionnal photographer?
I mean: the fact she didn't talk to you about a photo list is the same as a cook who wouldn't know they need potatoes to make french fries!!
I'm not even kidding.Most real pro photographers have a list similar to this:https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/a-wedding-family-portrait-checklist-for-your-photographer or at least, they would ask you to create your own list that you would have to send them before the wedding, so they can plan the photoshoot timeline.However, she was everything but professional. Some people lose their job for a "smaller" mistake/fault.
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