I want to cancel and elope!!!

Yes!

My friend has done it twice and been happy both times!

I think there are lots of people out there who have eloped and are happy... Ultimately you're going to be happy no matter what, because you're getting married, but you will probably be extra happy if you and FH have a wedding you can afford too. You can still have a somewhat traditional wedding by scaling down your guest list and hosting an intimate wedding... it's sort of the best of both worlds. Find a nice, little ceremony spot and host a post wedding dinner at a restaurant! Or get out there and elope! It's ultimately going to come down to your priorities. My FH and I scrapped our plans for a large (150 guest) wedding to a 15 guest, destination wedding in Hawaii and the wedding and honeymoon combined is coming in at half the cost of our original plans.

I did but I genuinely didn't care either way. I was only planning a big wedding because my dad was throwing a hissy fit about it. I don't regret it one bit. The only regret I have is not wearing the dress I'd initially picked out.

Do it because deep down it's what you want.

Do it because you know for sure that you won't regret not having a larger wedding.

Don't do it because planning sucks.

Don't do it because money is tight right now. You can always push it back or you can have just a smaller wedding as opposed to truly eloping.

I wanted to elope. Fiance said I will regret it and is "making me" (not literally) have a wedding! I really really didnt want a wedding period even before the planning stress started! Oh well, two more months and it'll be all over! You have a long ways to go.. I say cancel yours! If invitations hadn't went out already I would "make" fiance cancel lol

Your wedding is more than a year away. Remember everything doesn't have to be done now. I would think hard about eloping. Having said that, yes I think eloping can suit some couples very well!

La Grosera gave great advice.

We didn't quite elope but we did cancel a larger wedding in favor of just our immediate families. I totally get where you're coming from

Thank you all for your help and support. I think we have some serious thinking to do. Our guest list right now is 87 people and 50 would definitely come. I want much much smaller.

You could elope now and renew your vows at your 5th year anniversary and have something larger then, if you decided you regretted not having bigger.

I hear you... I wanted smaller even suggested eloping but FH believes I deserve more. He wanted barn, I wanted a 75 ppl max darling chapel here so we compromised and are doing it at our church which is letting us for free. Also having it around 2 like we are you can do appetizers and lighter/cheaper foods. There are ways to cut cost if this is what you want. I will say as much as I wanted a small intimate wedding we're looking at about 100-120 ppl.. but you have plenty of time to make this decision. You've got this! Good luck!

Elope to Hawaii.

I didn't have a first wedding just ex H & officiant... I honestly was very much happy we had twins young at the time so honestly do what you need for your family. THIS wedding is giving me a headache most days but I love him & his family

I think so whatever you want!

Our guest list is a similar size. We are doing a DW for specifically that reason: it trims the list. Also, it means our honeymoon and wedding are rolled into one. So maybe that's an option for you? But I do have several friends who eloped, and they are very happy with their decision. My therapist told me that there is a study that found the less you spend on the wedding, the happier your marriage is-- so that tells you something!

If it helps, Marie, we started at about the same size. Made some difficult choices but cut to 60. We have about 35-45 attending. It is possible but admittedly I've had some family drama because of not inviting certain folks but frankly it just shows me that that's what is more important to them such that I'm happy with my decision (we opted not to invite any cousins as it would have added like 30+ people to the guest list). We also went with a venue that limited us to 60 so it became a hard and fast, non debatable rule. FH wanted to elope but I knew I would regret not at least doing something small. Needless to say, despite the up front annoying drama, I become more and more happy every day with my decision to do something smaller.

I wish! Even my 22 person, family only wedding is annoying the fuck out of me right now and i really wish I could just take the money and FH to an island somewhere far far away, but...he really wants it so here I am. Good luck!

We aren't eloping, but we went from planning a 150+ person shindig to 28 guests at a restaurant.

My fiance and i are eloping. Having very few guest, and no reception.

Lol....you aren't the only one that had that thought...

I elpoed with my first husband and we were super happy (he was KIA in 2011). The only i regret i had about it was it was out of state so our parents werent there and we didnt take any photos so if you do elope make sure you take lots of photos, even if you have a family member take them Like PP said you could always have a vow renewal at 5 years or 10 when you dont have so much going on and you have more time to save.