i forgot my veil and I’m still upset. Tell me your wedding regrets.

I regret not allotting more time for photo taking. we had a photo session and we got great photos but there were some poses i didn't get because we were constrained for time - it goes by so fast!

I'm so sorry. I can't believe literally no one thought to mention this to you. My hair stylist put my veil on and she knew in advance I was going to have a veil because we discussed it at my trial. I regret two things: 1. sharing a hotel room with my grandparents the night before my wedding and 2. our florist.

I regret sharing a room with my grandparents because my grandmother made a big deal of my grandfather trying to sleep. I know he had to get sleep, but I stored all my things including shoes, dress, and jewelry in the room. I was in such a hurry grabbing things that I ended up misplacing my jewelry so I didn't get any detail photos of my jewelry and my bridesmaids and mom spent 30-45 minutes searching for it until they found it because I was busy getting my hair and makeup when I realized it was lost. Because of this pictures were delayed since we were taking photos prior to the ceremony so we didn't get as many photos as I would have liked.

I also regretted hiring the florist I did because she messed up almost everything. There were warning signs and my husband never liked her, but by the time I wanted to fire her it was pretty much already too late. She was purchasing things without asking permission then expecting us to pay for them. She used bouquet holders for my flowers because we wanted the stems wrapped and she claimed she didn't know how to do this, but the flowers didn't stay in the holders. My two sister-in-laws had to glue my flowers, which were real, into my holder so my bouquet wasn't falling apart. They didn't have time to do this with the bridesmaids/groosmwoman's bouquets so flowers were falling apart during the ceremony and photos. She used pink flowers instead of blush. She didn't forgot the pin that was my something borrowed at home. She didn't include the crystals in my bouquet that had been her idea. She didn't wrap the vases in a glittery ribbon like I asked for. Everything did look pretty, but it looked nothing like I envisioned and I was so upset that flowers were literally falling apart before and after the ceremony.

View Quoted Comment It definitely does go by fast, thank you

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry that happened to you, it’s really hard when you spend so much time and money planning something and it ends up not being as you imagined.

I forgot my bouquet as I walked down the aisle.

My ceremony and reception venue were a two in one, I had my ceremony outside on the large terrace and my reception in the ballroom. My ceremony site was at the bottom of beautiful stairs and although my mom would walk me down the aisle I had my two male cousins walk me down the stairs and to where my mom was standing. Half way down I am holding my cousins arm when I look up to see my guests face and am met by the face of our florist who is standing there taking pictures of me. I felt so bad. She must have thought I was unhappy with my bouquet and I was so happy with it. No one noticed either so when I was trying to signal my sister or one of my cousins to grab it before the ceremony ended they just stared back confused. After the ceremony my sister realized what had happened and grabbed it for me so I was able to take pictures with it but it was horrible when I realized my hands were empty.

I wish I had planned for an elopement sooner instead of feeling the pressures of having a traditional sized wedding

I have 2 regrets from my wedding;

1. Not booking the bridal suite at our venue: My husband and I booked a 2 bedroom resort suite for the weekend of our wedding. We checked in on Thursday and checked out Monday (our wedding was Saturday). Because we had the huge suite and my husband had plans to golf with his groomsmen the morning of our wedding & then change in another friend's suite who stayed at the same resort as us, I had all of my bridesmaids come over and get ready with me in our suite. Our resort was 30 minutes from our venue which, with my timeline, would've been fine but the lady doing my hair and makeup got confused and went to the venue instead of our resort so she was an hour late. Looking back now, I 100% would've booked the bridal suite b/c it would've made it easier overall and I wouldn't have been rushing to get to the venue for the photos we took before the wedding.

2. My photographer: Our photographer was one of my sister's friends from high school. The only issue was, our wedding was the 1st one she had ever done. I didn't get half of the photos I wanted and the quality of some of our photos were upsetting. We did get some good photos though, but out of the 200 photos she sent me, I only like/can use 8 or 9 of them because the rest honestly are terrible quality & just did not come out right. In my opinion, some of our photos honestly looked cheap. And on top of that, she didn't act like she knew what she was doing, she was rude to some of my guests & even yelled at my sister-in-law to "get back in the hallway" when my sister-in-law offered to help her place us for some of our pre-ceremony photos (b/c my sister-in-law is a photographer as well but wasn't our photographer b/c she was in the wedding). My husband gets angry any time our wedding photographer is brought up in conversation. I now understand we were the first wedding she did, but I did not know that prior to booking her. If I could go back, I would spend the extra money and get a better wedding photographer (and possibly 2 of them) so we would've had more and better quality photos.

I messed up on the number of boutonnières and didn’t have one for my Dad 😩 and I wish I would have had a first look with him. 😢😢😢

On the small side: boutonniere for the officiant. We had an extra one, but completely forgot, and he had a pink rose in all of our photos... when all of our flowers were dark blood red. It's totally ridiculous and silly, but the fact that we literally had a spare fifty feet away in the prep room... ugh.

On the big end: no video. Some may have seen me mention this on another thread, but I will say it until I'm blue in the face. I wish I could go back and do it again, knowing what I know now, and hire a videographer.
We were just kids - I was 19, he was 21. There is just some kind of magic about being that young, having no worries, life hadn't yet really touched us. Care-free kids, madly in love, all that mattered. And as I get older, I forget what that looked like more and more each day. I have about 4 minutes total of crappy camcorder footage - a little bit of us walking down the aisle to leave (where my husband looks at the camera and gives this BIG, TOTAL DOOFUS smile that still melts my heart, but was not captured in a single photo from the day), a little bit of our cake-cutting. None of the other special little things that happened - things that get greyer and greyer in my memory, but that I cherished so much when they happened.
It also would have meant having footage and audio of my dad, who I lost last year, and who I have absolutely no audio of, and I constantly fear I'm going to forget his voice. The one thing I have is, during that cake cutting, I distinctly hear him call out "alright!!"
The fact is, photos can't capture many things. Photos are great for all the manufactured stuff - your beautiful centerpieces you spent hours agonizing over. The food displays. Posed family photos (none of which I have ever even looked at.) But they don't capture people. They don't capture your loved ones' mannerisms, or their voices. They don't capture the things that, at least in my experience, I have learned you will actually miss in the years to come.

My biggest regret is trying to make everyone happy about my wedding plans to the point where my then-fiance and I were no longer happy. Good lesson for life, you can't make everyone happy so you just have to try to make the best decision as a team of 2 eith your fiance.

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I have so many regrets, my biggest one being I didn't get to have my mother daughter dance. My mom passed away two days after I got married. The guilt and regret alone keeps me up at night :/

I regret being so sick I had to take prescription nausea meds to make it through the day, and I regret missing my entire cocktail hour due to my dress being so difficult to bustle. I was also pretty pissed off that our coordinator didn't round up the bridal party so we could spend time together in the private cocktail room. It was just me and my MOH who was bustling the dress. And I couldn't go to the after party because the meds wore off and I had to go to bed.

This happened to me on my wedding day as well. I got married May 14,2022. So many people around and noone said anything. My fault for not putting both my wedding dress and veil not in the same bad so at least I would notice it. I was completely overwhelmed. Not even my husband after our first look said anything about do you have a veil. Nothing! My mom bought me the veil and my sister who was my maid of honor saw I had a veil smdh. I guess I could live with the fact that maybe it was not meant for me to wear one as one of my friends said. Eventually because right now I am still hurt by it.


A second regret is hiring the photographers we did. We barely got any posed photos and no portraits because they were so poorly managing their time and themselves. We were chasing them down several times during the evening. They were so highly recommended and they were just awful for us.