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Savvy October 2018

i don't want a bachelorette party/shower.

Elizabeth, on July 29, 2018 at 8:20 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 11
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I guess I'm just looking for commiseration here but... I'm not feeling like having a bachelorette party or bridal shower. No one has offered to throw me a bridal shower and I'm not going to ask them to. Mom and MOH live on the other side of the country so it's not like they can. FH's family lives locally but that's not really their responsibility.

I don't want to party, I don't want to drink (not trying to dry out my skin before the wedding), and because I don't have many close friends locally I don't want to have a party with women I'm only *sort of* friends with, awks level 100 IMO.

I just want to have a massage, a facial, my nails done, and for everyone to leave me alone before I'm the center of attention for 100 people, most of which I barely know or even have never met (FH has large family and my guest list is literally 11 people). Anyone else?

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Latest activity by Anne, on July 31, 2018 at 12:04 AM
  • Going to the chapel
    Master July 2017
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    There's absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting the parties. In fact, your plan of a massage, facial and mani/pedi sounds fantastic and so relaxing!

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  • Victoria
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    Victoria ·
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    Me! We have all we need, so I let my family know I did not want a shower - they followed up anyway a few times just to make sure.

    No bachelorette party for me either. I live about 5-6 hours from my closest family and friends and while I travel to see them multiple times a year, it's exhausting and to add a bachelorette party on top of that would be way too much.

    So, what am I doing? I found a top notch day spa - robes, slippers, mimosas, the qorks- and booked myself a massage and facial for a month before the wedding. I scheduled my appointment with about an hour and a half between treatments so that I could just relax. 4 hours in a spa all by myself? Yes please!
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  • Victoria
    VIP October 2018
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    Works... 😀
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    Savvy October 2018
    Elizabeth ·
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    Love it! Glad I'm not the only one. ❤️
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    Nothing is wrong with that! They arent for everyone
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  • Shai
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    Shai ·
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    Not having a bridal shower. I really wanted to do a bachelorette party but now I’m considering not having one because I’m so tired from working and planning this wedding. I just wanna get married and go on vacay so I can rest and relax.
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    Savvy October 2018
    Elizabeth ·
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    Same. I didn't hire a wedding planner or anything so I've done EVERYTHING by myself and I'm just exhausted and know that by the time we're 1-2 weeks out I'm going to be done. Fried. I just want to relax!
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  • Beth
    Expert October 2018
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    That’s exactly what I want just a time to relax. My friends will be there too but I don’t want to have a huge rager. I’m not into that and it’s too much drama
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  • xRApril
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    We didn’t do bachelor/bachelorette parties or a bridal shower. Partly because we work nights and never have weekends off. But instead of bachelor/bachelorette parties we just had our bridal party over for a bonfire the night before the wedding, and my MOH (my little sister) and a bridesmaid stayed the night. It was a lot more relaxing than partying! Also I was 8 weeks pregnant so couldn’t party anyway!
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  • latasha
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    latasha ·
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    I’ve also expressed that I don’t want any showers or parties. Mainly because I don’t want anyone to come out of pocket for that AND if they want to blow money give it to me so I can spend it on my wedding hahaha. I’m sure my mom, sisters and friends won’t listen tho lol
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  • Anne
    Savvy August 2020
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    Extremely same! You are not alone. And it’s completely okay for you to not want a bridal shower/bachelorette. You do you!
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