Husband works night shift

Does he say why he’s sleeping at his parents? This is extremely weird to me. When my fiancé and I argue I always say I’m going to stay at my parents but I never do because this is my home (and we usually make up by then anyways). I think we need more details

Definitely not overreacting. I would feel like I was being lied to and that there is a reason as to why he doesn't want to go home to sleep. Have you asked him why this is or possibly ask his parents if he's talked to them?

View Quoted Comment He tells me that I am not home (bc he sleeps during the day) and that I should be happy that he is close to his family. Yes, I find it weird too.

View Quoted Comment That’s what I have told him, he sees nothing wrong with this behavior. His mother is always asking him “when are you coming over” it seems like a day can’t pass that he can’t see her.

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Does that bother you? I mean it would bother me only because my FMIL don't so much get along but if he's going there just to sleep and not spend time with her I don't see why he's going there everyday and doesn't go to his own home.

View Quoted Comment Yeah it bothers me because for whatever reason, I think he should be at his house. I don’t understand why he has to go there to spend the day (sleep), when he can sleep at home. It doesn’t help that I don’t really like his sister because of the way she has previously expressed about me..

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I understand have you made it a point to talk to him about it and ask him why he sleeps there?

View Quoted Comment Yup, and he says there is nothing wrong with that.

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Do his friends know this?

Do you know for sure he’s sleeping every night at his parents?

Is his parents house closer or something? Ya idk I'd be upset too.

View Quoted Comment Sorry I should have stated it more clear, he spends the whole day there. And I know bc when I come the bed, the dishes, the food, everything is just like I left it. When he comes after me, he claims he went for a walk but he comes with the same clothes and everything that he goes to work with, including the suitcase.

View Quoted Comment It takes him less time to go there, but he still should be coming home, even if it is 15 minutes more than his parent’s house.

View Quoted Comment That would really upset me. When you marry you start a new life together he should be home making a home with you two. Especially if you have an animal to care for. His parents should want him home as well.

Home as in with you. I'm sorry that's a tough situation and the fact that he is lying he knows it bothers you.

In no way shape or form are you overreacting.

You’re not overreacting. That just doesn’t make any sense to me and I’m sorry that’s happening to you. When is he ever at home? When do you get to see one another? And I’m so surprised that his parents are allowing this as well. Have you spoken with his parents?

View Quoted Comment That’s how I feel, some people just don’t think the same way. His mother is always asking him to stop by as if he is not technically starting a new family. His sister also, the same way. They all think that is is single and needs to be available for them for everything they need.

View Quoted Comment Yes he sure knows it bothers me, this makes me wonder if he is ready to build a family. It seems like his never going to fully leave the nest.

View Quoted Comment Well, he used to come home at 8PM or even 9PM and we had an argument. Because he leaves for work @11 so I complained that we were not spending much time together. Now he tried to come home right before at come, but some times he comes after me with an excuse that he was walking or something. I guess he didn’t think I was going to notice he had the same clothes from work..