How to have a Bachelorette party with underaged bridesmaids - Help!

If the two are underage, I don't think they would necessarily be allowed at the bars or wineries. If you're set on it maybe do a spa treatment followed by dinner with everyone and then bar hopping or whatever after? They can be part of the first part.

My sister is underage, and I’m thinking of doing a nail/spa day close to the wedding, and then brunch after. That way everyone has their nails done and we all get to hang out! Brunch is also good since if anyone wants to drink, they can totally get a mimosa, but there’s no awkwardness if someone can’t drink. Some wineries won’t even let underage people in, even if they’re not drinking.

This will depend on their age and what they would be comfortable doing. My fiancé’s sister is 19, she sometimes drinks at home or with friends. Before my MOH even made plans I checked in with his sister first to see if she would even be interested in going because she is also kind of quiet around people she doesn’t know. She said she wanted to go so my MOH has made sure all activities allow for her to be there. We are doing wineries, where she probably won’t drink there or may just have a few sips of mine, and then drinking at our Air BnB. Had she said she didn’t feel comfortable going or just didn’t want to I probably would’ve just gotten nails done with her or something.


I don’t think bar hopping would be an option if they go, at least most bars around me they check IDs to get in. So if they want to join and drink then maybe do a slumber party or something. Or like PP suggested, dinner before with them and then everyone else can go bar hopping after. But I would say before making plans just reach out to all of the underage girls and see if they want to join and what they feel comfortable doing.

My sister's bachelorette was lunch, then we all had nails done. The nail salon we went to allowed us to bring drinks in, so the MOH made sangria for everyone. Then we went to a hotel to hang out, relax, drink and play games. After that, we went to a sports bar (which allows minors until like 10 pm) for trivia and appetizers. Then we all went to the hotel again to get cleaned up for dinner. We did a late dinner at a sushi place (anyone who wanted to had cocktails). Then again just drinks and games at the hotel. One of her bridesmaids was a new mom so still nursing and didn't want to dump breast milk so she didn't drink and another was trying to conceive so she didn't want to drink either. It was a fun day, while not being drinking focused and minors wouldn't have been out of place. So there are a lot of options for you to have a fun bachelorette, and include them, without it being bar/winery focused.

Just do dinner (or lunch) together and drop them off before the hopping (or tasting.) Maybe mani/pedis or something, too 😊

Try to do something like a spa day as suggested here go do activity that they allow underage ppl. Like bowling or Dave's and buster's where I think you can still drink and they can have something others drinks there where it's a win win for all. Even your other bridesmaids can have fun too

I am doing a lunch with all by bridesmaids, 2 of which are under age, Then that night I am going local with a bunch of friends and the remaining bridesmaids that are over 21 and hitting the bars!

For my bachelorette, we decided on a tea party. It’s fun we get to enjoy tea and small sandwiches.

If you want to bar hop etc I d plan a nice fun thing everyone can do prior, dinner, spa day, Brunch, a show, a picnic or hike, and then later in the evening the over 21 crowd can hit the town. Or you can have a fun house party/hotel slumber party have your fave take out food, fun movies, lots snacks, face masks, a masseuse etc you can decide if you want to serve both alcoholic and non alcoholic beverages. Whatever you decide have fun!

I would do a 2 part bachelorette. The first part would be something they could do like a visit to a spa and then afterwards you can go out and go bar hopping.

I have one junior bridesmaid and for my bachelorette party, we chose a place where she could be included, and it was Painting with a Twist. it was a fun activity night where we painted and there was wine involved but we were all so focused on painting our piece that we didn't drink too much. It was a lot of fun and relaxing and I recommend finding a place like that. A place where you can do a fun activity as a group and maybe sprinkle in alcohol if you wish.