How to handle your first time being married

For us it didn’t feel much different. We’ve lived together for 4 years and been together for 7 before we got married so nothing changed. It just felt a little more calming like this person is officially my partner for life.

Hi ! Your question made me smile... "being married for the first time" ?? Well, I want to be married this one time and only... I think that's the point, no ? I know there are divorces and that's OK, but it's like... not the purpose of the thing to do many marriages to practice

I just got married after being long distance for over a year. What your married life looks like is up to you to discuss with your fiance (and you should; I'd definitely recommend premarital counseling if you haven't don't it already). But I can tell you I'm so happy I got married!

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Cool thanks Anais

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Thanks Emillia your the best

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Thanks Heather i would definitely look into premarital for sure

I’m not sure how to answer because it depends on what you are nervous about. If you’re a little nervous because it’s a huge commitment, then that’s normal. You’re excited to marry them (of course!!) but it’s different because of all the hoops you have to jump through to get out of it. 😳 Luckily, if you both understand that marriage will be hard and that you are truly a team and fighting battles together, then there is really nothing to be nervous about.


If you’re nervous about what every day will look like living with someone else - you’ll figure it out. I do the cooking, my husband cleans the dishes afterwards. It was never spoken, it just happened naturally and we thought “hey, this is a good deal!”
The best advice I’ve heard is “Be a spouse that you would want to come home to.”
Greet your spouse with a kiss when you get home. Act silly. Have dance parties. Sing songs to each other. (I insert my husband’s name into almost every song just for the smile.)Give hugs that last extra long. When they ask why, “I just love hugging you.” You were cute when you started dating, so don’t lose the cuteness when you’re married!
Marriage is great, but it does take work. Every day. Today, we drove my dad somewhere and my husband put on an Eagles playlist because he knows my dad’s taste in music. When we got home, I told my husband how I noticed the playlist and appreciated what he did. It wasn’t anything huge and it wasn’t even for ME… but it’s those little things that make me so happy I married him - so I make sure I tell him that 😊
Marriage is like playing an instrument. If you work at it, you'll get better. You can play through the hard songs and everything becomes easier. But if you stop practicing, you’ll forget how to play as well. You’ll have to slow down and focus on each note. You can learn how to play well again, but you’ll have to build up to it with a lot of extra practice.
So don’t stop practicing! Keep working on your marriage every day and you’ll be able to play through all the tough times in life. And your spouse will be harmonizing right along with you.
I hope this helped calm some of your nerves. Let me know if you’re nervous about something else. These are just some of the things I’ve learned since getting married in July 2020.