How to adjust to living together

I honestly never felt that different when I moved in with my fiance. It felt natural and we didn't have any fights about space or money. Enjoy living together! I personally only think it has positives...

I've lived with two guys. I never really had a adjustment time. It just kind of happened and worked.

There might be things you don't like or you both don't do the same way, just talk about it. Don't get angry, talk.

Open communication always, and be patient in the beginning with each other's flaws. For example, when I moved in with FH we had a huge argument over his nasty dishes. I could have handled it better by avoiding swearing and just being more nice in general. You will bother each other, you will offend each other, but in the end, you'll be happy to wake up and see each other's faces every morning. Just be patient and work through problems together.

I’ve really had no issues! I’m actually probably the messier one. Anytime my husband brings something up he says “hey babe, do you think we could work on xxxx (picking up our shoes, picking up our clothes, throwing away candy wrappers, etc” he’s always calm and never accusatory. I can’t speak to splitting expenses (groceries, rent, utilities) because we share all of our money in a joint bank account.

There'll be an adjust period, they'll be some fights, and they'll be some habit changes both of you have to make. When I first lived my FH it was in a studio apartment, there were parts that came naturally and parts that took work. #1 thing is to communicate, if somethings bothering you say something that first time and don't let it stew. #2 is don't put pressure on yourselves to be prefect or fit some idea of what "living together" looks like.

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This is my experience with FH. We have been living together for 3.5 years now! We moved in a year and half after dating, but basically spent every night after 3 months together, so I knew what he was like, and he knew what I was like! It has worked out well, and we are really compatible, and as for boys being icky... Us girls are no picnic either! Pick your battles and make compromises.

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Be open-minded! You each have your ways, and how you live, so you have to be open-minded and communicate with each other for this new experience.

Definitely communicating. You definitely learn more about the person you live with (and even find out new things about yourself!) example: FH talks in his sleep, he didn’t know that lol.

I’ve lived with three guys over the years including my fiancé. And you will have to pick your battles and let a lot of things go.

Just be open with each other. We made a cleaning to do weekly list for me, him and my son so no one was expected to do it all. We rotate rooms each week so it's also fair and have designated laundry nights so no one is fighting over the machines or getting behind on laundry. Works really well for us! There were a few fights that came on from the adjustment of living together early on but we talked it out and figure things out

It took us a little while to adjust. I had to get used to not doing things my way all the time, and not realising that he couldn’t read my mind (I’d expect him to know that I wanted him to do something without me telling him). Splitting up chores is a big one too - we quickly worked out that he can get twice as much into the dishwasher as I can, so that’s his job. But he doesn’t seem to be able to remember where everything goes in the kitchen drawers and cupboards, so I unload the dishwasher! Communication is key, and having reasonable expectations.

All I really gotta say is enjoy it!!! And be yourself!! Don’t start acting different because you think “oh he’s not gonna like that”... so just be yourself and ask him the same. If you don’t really like something/deal breaker then bring it up nicely.. when we moved in together 10yrs who lol... nothing really bothered me. Not even the bathroom seat lol... now every now and then I remind him to stop doing something, but we are both equally busy and rarely have time to clean so things get understand. Find the balance I guess lol.. good luck

Guys are icky? Yeah, no. My husband has a much higher standard about cleaning for most things. I'm almost pathological with regard to bedding and other linens, but other stuff he cares far more than me. I know a lot of guys who are very tidy and clean, particularly in bathrooms and kitchens.

As far as adjusting to living together goes, talk about expectations. When issues you didn't think about come up talk about them. Just make sure that you talk about them at a good time, not when someone is trying to leave for work or is overly tired, and not when someone is particularly frustrated or angry.

I think the most important thing about living together is communication, communication and communication it’s SO important to talk about things that are bothering you or how you are feeling. As for living together also I had zero problems adjusting as this was my first time ever living with an SO and I think as long as you both put in the equal work and talk things out. Also keep things fun go on date nights it’s soo fun living with your better half.

Stay patient with each other. It's easy to get annoyed with each others weird ways and disgusting habits (I'm sure you have them too lol). But stay open and talk about anything you may not be able to deal with. Most times, you're willing to change. Also, you will learn about each others strengths and weaknesses and you'll learn to pick up where one may be slacking. It's exciting to blend and mesh lives. Stay positive and it's always worth it. Been living with FH for almost two years now. He never changes the toilet paper roll and he eats my pop tarts but living with him is still one of the best experiences of my life.

First off, congrats! This should be an exciting time for you both, try not to stress too much.
As others have said, pick your battles. My FH is way messier than I am, so I quickly had to learn how 1) how to communicate this to him 2) what things I’m overly sensitive about that I just need to let go and 3) what issues are worth nagging over.
My FH moves in after 3 weeks of dating 🤦‍♀️he lost his house in Harvey and I had extra room. So it was an adjustment but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Lastly, are you moving into his place? Is he moving into your place? Or is this a new place for both of you? Something I didn’t think of when FH moved in is that he felt like he was living in my house and couldn’t do things his way. Make sure to communicate that this is now a shared space, doesn’t belong to one person more than the other.
Enjoy this time, you’ll be making so many good memories and will always remember your first place together.

We've been together 8.5 years and lived together 6. My advice is learn which points to push and which to let go. Oh and enjoy when you guys get a break from each other and you have the house to yourself 😆

Me and FH moved together last March. I love it, but I’m not going sit here and act like he doesn’t get on my nerves sometimes 😂. I’m sure we both have habits that irritate the other. But it’s all about compromising and communicating.

When we moved in together it was big adjustment. Neither of us had ever lived with anyone else and we went from long distance to sharing a pretty small apartment. I would say be open about what you need, how you feel and try your best to be constructive. Like instead of just saying you’re mad about something (dirty dishes or whatever) talk about how you could both adjustments to make the situation less frustrating.