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How long to wait before having kids?

Allie, on April 1, 2020 at 5:18 PM Posted in Married Life 0 23
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How long do you all plan to wait after getting married to have kids (if you plan on kids)? It seems 3 years is the most common, but I guess it depends on other factors too.

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Latest activity by mrswinteriscoming, on June 14, 2020 at 8:25 AM
  • Hillary
    Expert October 2021
    Hillary ·
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    I think we’re planning 2 years. 3 years max. I think one year is too soon...I want to enjoy marriage for a bit first. But everyone is different.
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I think we're planning on at least 4-5 years because i said when i'm 30 is when i'd want to decide. but even then i highly doubt we'd have a kid then too so probably longer than 5 years! i 100% want to enjoy marriage and my youth.

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  • Lauren
    VIP February 2020
    Lauren ·
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    We just got married on Leap Day. We're planning on waiting a year & 1/2 or so before starting to try for kids. We're both 26 (close to 27), and in a perfect world, I'd like to be pregnant around the time I'm 28.

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    We started trying around 9 months after being married because I was 31. I’m 16 weeks pregnant now but I will say it took a lot longer to get pregnant than we thought it would. So be prepared that your plans might change from what you envision.
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  • Fany
    Devoted October 2021
    Fany ·
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    I dont plan on waiting after the wedding. We plan to stop using protection on the wedding night abd go from there. We've been together for almost 5 years and have traveled to several places already, including Europe.
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  • S
    Devoted September 2021
    Samantha ·
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    We are planning on 2-3 years!
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  • S
    Devoted September 2021
    Samantha ·
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    Congrats that is so exciting
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  • Caroline
    Dedicated August 2020
    Caroline ·
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    Honestly, I would wait 5 years if I could 😂 But FH is 15 years older than me, and said he has a hard stop at 45. We’ll likely start trying two years after we get married.
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  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I think it depends on so many factors: age, financial and career situations, etc. I'm in a full time doctorate program and do not have the time to commit to maternity leave or caring for a newborn/infant, so we're waiting 3 years until I've graduated. If I hasnt decided to go back to school, we'd probably have started right away.
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  • Jai
    Rockstar May 2020
    Jai ·
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    5-6 years. I'm a masters student. We both want to save money and further our careers
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  • Erika
    Savvy June 2022
    Erika ·
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    FH wants to have kids right away and so do I. We’ve been honest about wanting to be young parents (we’re 25) since day 1 and we know sometimes getting pregnant doesn’t happen super fast. I guess we’ll just stop using protection and see what happens lol
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    We got married in November and planned to start trying this spring, but we’re on hold because of the pandemic.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    We are waiting around 1 year. We got married October 2019 and plan to start trying for a baby in October of this year.
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  • Nicole
    Super August 2020
    Nicole ·
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    We’re probably going to wait 1-2 years. We plan on buying a house after the wedding, and have multiple weddings that I’m part of next year. Also plan on going back to school (online). We also want to travel a little bit.
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  • Lisa
    Expert April 2021
    Lisa ·
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    We’re starting right away; the night of the honeymoon! We’ve been together almost 5 years and have enjoyed each other. We’ll be 33 & 34 when we get married so we don’t want to wait any longer. I would’ve been tried if I didn’t feel strongly about being married 1st. So I’d say do what’s best for you and your fiancé.
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    Well, I'm nearly 37, so we're going for right away.

    It all depends on your own personal situations.

    (Cross your fingers, I hope I have good news soon.)

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  • Sardis
    Dedicated July 2020
    Sardis ·
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    Awwww congratulations, may the Lord guide you and bless you in this new journey. Virtual hug

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  • Sardis
    Dedicated July 2020
    Sardis ·
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    FH and I have talked about this a lot. We are both 30 and love kids so with that being said we have decided to not use protection and start right away (honeymoon night) and see what happens. As Kelly mentioned above sometimes it may be harder than we think ( from what I have seen and heard). So we shall see what happens and knowing that God is in control.

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  • Anna
    VIP October 2020
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    We're not waiting at all before trying. Like some have said, it can take longer than we expect. But I'll be 33 before the wedding and he's 41, we're not spring chickens but we've both always wanted children. We're just going to go with it and see what the Lord has planned for us.

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  • Tammy
    Super October 2018
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    I was 32 when I got married and ended up having a honeymoon baby so we waited roughly 3 hours? lol He just turned 9 months and it has been a crazy 18 months of marriage for sure.

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