How far out were your shower and bach?

Yes! Sounds like that's the ideal time for you. Although I have not picked the exact date yet for bachelorette and bridal shower. I am planning mine in August, and my wedding is Nov 7th.

June is a tad early, but if it's the only time all of your girls would be able to make it then I would definitely have it then! Otherwise August sounds perfect. Our wedding is Feb 23 and I just had my bridal shower on Jan 11. Generally around 3 months or less from the wedding is the norm (I think), but June isn't super far out of that timespan

I think June is totally fine for a shower/bachelorette party if it means all your bridesmaids will be able to make it. We're looking at June or July for my bachelorette (2-3 months beforehand), but I've also attended a February bachelorette party for a June wedding (4 months beforehand) and wouldn't bat an eye at doing something that early.

I have 2 out of state bridesmaids and we made the shower a (little) bit on the earlier end to keep them from having to travel so close together. I'm getting married in June and will do the bridal shower in March and bachelorette in May. But I know someone who got married in November and did Bachelorette in July/August b/c they're a teacher!

I am getting married in October as well and am having the Bridal Shower the second weekend of August and the Bachelorette Party the first weekend of October. Ideally I wanted the Bachelorette Party to be in September, but it’s a busy month for all of us!

My wedding is May 30, My bridal shower is March 14 and bachelorette is a few days later.

CA Bachelorette - May 3-5

CO Bridal Shower - May 18

CA Bachelor - May 18

Wedding - July 20

My shower was 5 months out and my bach was two nights before. We were all traveling so I had to have my shower over the summer.

We did mine in November for my April wedding because I have girls in multiple places. There are the norms of doing it within a month but I am SO glad I didn't wait. The closer we get to the wedding, the more I have to get done and I feel like if I added another trip I would be overwhelmed.

My shower is Feb 29th

My shower was three months ahead and the bachelorette was one month ahead

We are doing my shower a month out. A little short of time for me but we are getting married in October and the shower will be Labor Day weekend so they can all come down. The bachelorette will be the weekend of on Friday, wedding on Sunday.

My shower is June 6, 2020 and the wedding is September 12, 2020. I would have preferred July, but my family goes on vacation for a week and my FH's dad and sister go to upstate New York for a week in July. Plus the 4th of July is on a weekend this year. So June just worked out better.

I'm getting married October 10th. We're looking to do the bridal shower the second/possibly 3rd week of August and the bachelorette the second weekend in September. I don't think 4 months out is too bad, especially if that's the only time you can have all your girls together.

I'm getting married April 11th, 2020. 3 of my 5 girls are out of state. I just had my shower this past weekend. Only 2 bridesmaids were able to go. Understandably! I've heard whispers of a Bach party, but it will be a mini one a day or two before the wedding as my girls don't start getting here until the Wednesday before the wedding

Getting married on August 1st, originally wanted to have my bridal shower in May or June, but my MOH is gone most of those two months, so I had to settle for a bridal shower in April. Fortunately, my bach party is in July 3 weeks before our wedding. I honestly feel like June might be too early for you considering I think my bridal shower is too early even with it being 3 months away from the wedding. Do you think if you set a date in August that they can just commit to that date?

Would your BM's be able to make it to an August event? Will your wedding also be out of town for them? If many of your bridal party have to travel to both events then having some space between them might be ideal.

Our Wedding is June 27th and we are having my Bachlorette weekend the first weekend of April and Bridal shower the first weekend of May. I wanted some time between the events to give my bridal party small breaks between traveling. I do have several out of state bridesmaids but we all work in the airlines so traveling is not an issue, however, I do not want to impose too much on this benefit. I have also made both events optional with only the actual wedding weekend being the required event.

View Quoted Comment Yes, they will have to travel for the wedding already, so I don’t want to ask them to make multiple trips. One lives in Cali, the other is in Kentucky, and I’m in Mass. It’s far for both other them. You’re lucky to have the airline hookup!

We ended up doing the bachelorette 7 weeks before the wedding and the bridal shower 4 weeks before - we had originally planned for the bridal shower to be 12-ish weeks before the wedding but I ended up having schedule conflicts with work! Similarly, all of my bridesmaids currently live in different states so I personally prioritized them coming to the bachelorette and the shower ended up being more family (I have attended a bachelorette weekend where Sunday afternoon we had a family/friends bridal shower, which was wonderful!)

I say go for summertime if that's really what you're envisioning, and June definitely isn't too early (especially since that means all of your VIP's will get to attend!) Happy planning

Good question! My shower and bachelorette party were the same day (in August, got married in October) because my sister (moh) was flying in, and I wouldn't ask her to fly more than necessary, nor would I ask my other bridesmaids to fly to her. Personally, I think a night out for a bach party is perfect, so it worked out.