How does a morning-after breakfast/brunch work?

My family does this after every wedding. I've never been to one where it was on a sunday that wasn't following a holiday weekend, but there isn't anything wrong with doing it that way. We always say "Hey everyone We're going to restaurant X at X time for whoever wants to join" The Bride and Groom usually don't go because they're either 1. too hungover/still asleep or 2. Already on their way to their honeymoon so its always been the parents of the bride or groom sending the information out in my case (The morning after brunch my family all went to at my wedding was at 8am because of people leaving to drive/fly home so we definitely were not getting up for that lol). Its fine for you to do it informally that way but if you send out any kind of official invite then you are required to pay.

View Quoted Comment That’s what I figured, thank you! We’re not going to send invites because honestly I don’t want to commit to going if we’re too tired hahah, and also I don’t think a huge number of people will be coming since it is a Monday. But I know at least my MOH will be there, I’m sure most of the rest of our bridal party and probably some OOT family that I’d like the opportunity to see one more time... and we have to eat anyway, so it could be nice.

Just wanted to make sure it wouldn’t be rude to not pay for everyone because we definitely cannot afford that

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It's only rude if you specifically invite people and ask them to pay (as that is with anything). If you just do a word of mouth "Fh and I are going to breakfast at X diner in case anyone wants to join" then its fine since you aren't requesting anyone's presence or specifically asking them.

We put on our info that brunch was included on Monday for anyone who stayed at the hotel and provided a link to the menu (with pricing) in case anyone else wanted to join. It was us and the bridal party but brunch was included with their stay.

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View Quoted Comment Oh that’s so nice that it was included!

We did this for our destination wedding since most people left the next day so it was kind of a breakfast/say bye before heading to the airport. I did an itinerary for the welcome bags that just said "the newlyweds will be having breakfast at (restaurant in hotel) at 9am. Feel free to join!" Almost everyone at least stopped by whether they ate or not.

Honestly, wvwry wedding I've ever been to has had a morning after brunch. I've never seen it not hosted and the bride and groom has always gone....
I personally would be put off by you just saying to meet somewhere and then arent hosting. I'd personally skip it if you can't afford to host.

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I have seen it done a whole bunch of ways! I have seen formal invites to a hosted brunch, casual lunches hosted at homes, and meeting and paying our own way. In my opinion it just depends how you spread the word. There is nothing wrong with spreading the word that you will be somewhere and people are welcome to join in if that is what you are trying to do. Just make sure you are careful how you word it if you are not planning on hosting. I have never been turned off by this. Weddings are expensive and everyone has a limit.

I'd skip it - you are going to be exhausted.

We are doing a casual breakfast in the hotel. They are reserving the bar area for us and then we are doing a buffet with eggs, bacon, toast, and fruit. We are paying but it's going to be a casual- stop in and stay as long as you want kind of thing. I didn't want to do anything too official because I'm sure we will be tired and we have a lot of people from out of town and I'm sure they will want to get on the road. But at least this way everyone can get something quick to eat if they want and we can spend a little more time with our guests and say goodbye.

I'm not sure how it would work on a Sunday if many guests are local. I'd probably do the informal thing and have people meet you at X place, Y time and keep it informal. Don't do anything in writing if you aren't paying for it /hosting.

If your wedding has many OOT guests that may be traveling, it could make sense to have a "Come & Go" style brunch at your hotel or someone's home the morning after. My parents are hosting a light "continental brunch" (think quickbreads/muffins, fruit, leftover cake, quiche etc.) at their home the morning after. But it was on my details & RSVP cards -- so everyone is invited if the want to come by.

I am doing a causal brunch for my family that are out of town. But I am not paying. I mean, weddings are expensive enough, why do we have to accommodate everyone?

I would say just say to people that it is a causal brunch at this place at this time. If you want to come, we will see you there! But it isn’t required, especially for a Sunday wedding.

Bkfst day after was great to say bye to folks and talk to others who maybe didnt get to the night of. We hosted but i think with correct wording could be more of "meet us here but we arent paying " event