Host your own Bachelorette party

You don't host your own bachelorette party. And you don't invite people to a bachelorette party who aren't invited to the wedding--which means that for an elopement, you typically don't have a bachelorette party.

View Quoted Comment Typically I can see that but I’m still going to have one only because when we get back we are still have a reception like celebration. Plus I still feel like I should be able to celebrate the fact that I’m getting married regardless of how I’m doing it.

View Quoted Comment I agree! I think you can totally host your own. I picked what I wanted to do and planned it with my bridal party, I guess I was kind of the host then. Your idea sounds fun and you should definitely get a night out with your friends just like any other bride! 🙂 and I don’t think $50 is a lot at all, especially with so many destination bachelorette parties nowadays.

View Quoted Comment I agree! You can celebrate your marriage any which way you want to in my opinion. Having a fun night out is not a problem at all! I would pay $50 no problem for my friend. Hope you guys have a great time!!

I don’t see anything wrong with wanting to celebrate with your closest friends! And $50 really isn’t that bad! I’m being kind of non-traditional myself since FH and I have a short engagement. So, I’ve decided we’re going to celebrate after the wedding and I’ll be inviting some very close girl friends who aren’t part of the bridal party (my bridal party is small and mostly family). So, you know, you do your thing and have fun!❤️

Typically you aren't supposed to host your own party. Or have wedding-related parties for guests not invited to the wedding. I didn't host mine. Eloping usually means you forego bachelor party, bachelorette party, engagement party, bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, etc. But if a close friend eloped and planned her own bach, and wanted me to pay $50 and that's it, I'd probably still go to celebrate with her. Probably not if it wasn't a close friend though.

There are no rules. Do what feels right for you and don't let anyone make you feel badly about it. If one of your friends doesn't like the idea, they don't have to come. But I bet all your closest friends will, because any excuse to spend time with people you love is worth it.

View Quoted Comment This was refreshing to read. Thank you ❤️

There are no rules! You do what feels right. If nobody has offered to throw a bachelorette party for you, then plan it and invite some friends! Id definitely pay $50 to spend time with a friend

First off, it sounds like you aren’t eloping in the traditional sense. As in you are going away without inviting guests, but it’s not a secret. By what you said, people know you are getting married and will be invited to a party or reception of some sort after you return home. If that’s true, there is no reason you can’t have the traditional wedding related activities. I think having a shower for yourself may be crossing the line, but I would totally go to a bachelorette party for someone in your situation. Most I’ve been invited to lately have been via a Facebook invite or email. I would keep the guest list to only include those who will be invited to the reception you have planned, just as you would normally only include those invited to the wedding.