Honeymoon Shower Wording

Showers are for gifts, not monetary gifts, even contributions to a fund of some sort. If the bride doesn't want physical gifts, a shower should not be held.

Do you mean the wording for your donation? I'm not sure I understand the question..

I'm not a fan of the word "donation" for something like this. I make a donation to a charity, not to a couple getting married.

Showers aren't for monetary gifts, they are for showering the bride with physical gifts. If they don't want physical gifts, they don't need a shower.

Also, they aren't a charity, so gifts aren't a "donation".

My FH and I have been living together for almost 3 yrs. We don't need anything for our home but my MH wants to throw me a shower so I will not be doing a registry. I will ask for gifts to be fun. Maybe my garter, my wedding day robe, gift cards for date nights or something along these lines. I could never ask for money. People are already spending alot to participate in our wedding.

It is not appropriate to have a shower where guests bring money. If the bride doesn’t want to make a registry some options are having a stock the bar shower or everyone brings their favorite recipe.

Agree with everyone else. Call it a bridal brunch to something else. I'm not paying for your vacation.

She could set up a registry for luggage, travel make up bag, beach hats, books, beach towels, new camera, etc. Everything honeymoon related.

If people want to give cash, they will. I'm sure she'll get enough for the wedding.

View Quoted Comment I love this! Wonderful idea! I thinks it's great what you're doing for her. Since a honeymoon is her wedding gifts, she just needs to include the travel agent info with the invitations. As for the bridal shower, Allison's idea nailed it.

I always give a gift for the shower and cash for the wedding for them to use any way they want. I would never give cash for a shower. The shower is to help the couple set up their home. If they don't need anything, then I honestly don't think they need a shower. If there is no shower, then I give more at the wedding.

It's been said. You don't have a shower and ask for cash for anything: a honeymoon, a down payment for a house, wedding expenses etc. You don't ask for cash ever, whether it's a shower,or any other gift giving occasion.

If I were the prospective hostess, I would tell the bride that I wasn't going to host a shower for cash. She can change the theme, register for items that could be used on the honeymoon, or not have a shower.

So they want to be showered in cash? If I was invited to a shower specifically asking for cash (or cash in the form of a honeymoon fund) I probably would decline. I already will give you cash for the wedding, I really don’t want to be asked for extra.

Thank you all for replies! I really wasn't looking on opinions... just suggestions on the wording for the invitation. It is 2018....

Dear ____,

So and So would like to invite you to their honeymoon shower. While this event is traditionally a bridal shower, they have all the items they need to begin their lives together and ask that instead you would lovingly consider a monetary contribution to their honeymoon fund. If you would instead like to contribute a gift, we have also created a registry for items for our honeymoon that will be a great contribution to our family vacation. Please rsvp by _____. We look forward to seeing you.

Moneyfund link: https://www.honeyfund.com/honeymoon-registry

View Quoted Comment That would be the fastest Decline rsvp known to mankind.

View Quoted Comment I cringed reading that...

It may be 2018 but politeness is never outdated.

Honestly I don’t see the difference in spending $100 on a mixer or adding $100 to a travel fund. People who are “too goo to pay for the couples vacation” but willing to give them a kitchen utensil need to just get off their high horses. $100 is $100 is $100, what does it matter what it is used for?

That being said a shower shower is specifically to shower the bride with gifts so if there is no physical registry I would not host a shower. You could do a bridal brunch, or similar, and through word of mouth let those close to you know about the travel agaent co tribution option in lieu of the traditional gifts.

I agree that the shower is to shower someone with gifts. I love the idea of being able to purchase physical things for their vacation though. You could do that along with the travel information.

Howwver, with that said, I would never get an invitation that had asked for a honeymoon donation and decline it due to that. It is 2018 and as long as things are changing and all the bridal magazines suggest these things it’s going to continue to happen. I personally find it more rude and appalling on how a person reacts to something that doesn’t fit their “high end etiquette standards.”

Isn’t it classier to accept someone’s decisions whether it is proper ettiquete or not. Isn’t that more classy and proper than scoffing, insulting, and declining and invite for someone that you supposedly care about?

View Quoted Comment I have never agreed with those that think a fund is bad but a registry is acceptable. They are one and the same.

View Quoted Comment Indeed it is. Well said.