Honeymoon registry?

I’m part of the crowd that thinks it’s a little tacky to ask your wedding guests to pay for your vacation. I also don’t contribute to them for the simple fact that I would prefer to gift cash directly to the couple without paying a fee to a middle man.

It depends on your crowd. I think you can set up a honeymoon fund and also ask for physical gifts if you'd like to have something for everyone. In my circles, most young people feel comfortable using an online registry and honeymoon fund and most of the older crowd will bring a physical check or cash to the wedding.

I used Zola to set up a honeymoon fund and gifts all in one place.

I signed up for a honeymoon registry mainly for my wedding shower. I don't think it's tacky, I think it's actually sweet to fulfill someone's dream honeymoon. Guests have an idea of gifting an amount to make sure you're able to do what you want to. My registry encourages guests to use cash or checks and give the gift at a shower or the wedding, because there won't be fees if they do so that way. When you spend so much money on a wedding anyways that some people might find it difficult to even have a honeymoon, so I think it's a good idea personally.

It’s definitely a know your crowd thing. Some people find them deceiving because they aren’t actually purchasing you an experience or paying for part of your hotel, they’re just giving you money with a middle man taking out part of it. But some people have no issues with them.

We have a Traveler’s Joy honeymoon fund and a Target registration, and so far the only gifts we have gotten are on the honeymoon one we love it!

I had a honeymoon fund but I actually itemized it into activities I legitimately did on my honeymoon. And I did find people were more inclined to buy me those activities than to just give to the general honeymoon fund.

I kept going back and forth on whether to do a honeymoon registry or not and ended up deciding on putting some items on our registry along with honeymoon activities. We're paying for our flights and lodging, but I think it makes people feel better about contributing if it's going towards an activity. Plus I also gave them an option to purchase an item if they prefer that instead.

It would be straight up asking for cash. A honeymoon registry doesn't actually provide you with specific experiences for your honeymoon, but just gives you cash to do with as you want.

If you want cash, your best bet is to have a small registry (if you're having a shower) or none at all. People will then give you cash or checks--without a honeymoon registry taking a portion of it.

Most couples pay for their weddings themselves, and in my opinion, that’s not an excuse or reason to ask others to fund your honeymoon. A honeymoon, much like a wedding with more than yourselves and officiant, is not required. Just don’t register. You will most likely receive cash anyway.