Honeymoon Fund

Gift information never goes on invitations, physical or money. People know cash is a good gift. Don't register for gifts and people will get the hint without needing to be told.

Gift information is announced by word of mouth when someone asks. Be prepared for many physical gifts since not everyone gives cash gifts or donates to honeymoon funds.

Like the others have said, gift information doesn't go on invitations. That is something you'd put on your wedding website. If you plan on only doing a honeyfund and no registry, I would prepare for guests to buy you things that you might not want, like or need since not everyone likes giving money at a wedding.

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Hi all,

We want to do a honeymoon fund, I want to let it be known that a donation is a option aside from gifts but I don't want to pay online fees by using Zola etc., and I'm having a hard time wording it correctly to make sure that my guests know it's only an option not a MUST and if they prefer giving us a gift from our registry that's okay too! TIA!!

View Quoted Comment Gifts are always optional, whether monetary or otherwise, so it's not something that needs to be said at all. If you don't want to pay any online fees, the best and easiest thing to do is to literally do nothing. Don't register anywhere and don't mention anything anywhere. If people ask you where you're registered, let them know you're just saving up for a honeymoon/house/whatever. Cash is always appreciated by newlyweds, and guests know that. And they know they have a choice in giving a gift.

1.) Donations are for charities, not weddings.
2.) Gifts should never be mentioned on wedding invitations, and panhandling for cash is even worse.
3.) Gifts are always optional.

View Quoted Comment Yes I agree, that wasn't my question. I miss word it terribly. My question was/is how can I collect the cash without having Zola etc., and how do I let people know where they are able to give it?


What word should I use other than donations? Cash gifts?

View Quoted Comment Yes I agree, that wasn't my question. I miss word it terribly. My question was/is how can I collect the cash without having Zola etc., and how do I let people know where they are able to give it?

Most of the gifts we received on our wedding were checks. There was no need to suggest that that’s what we wanted. We even had a registry. If you prefer cash then don’t register for anything and spread the information by word of mouth.

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There isn't really a polite way of telling people that you want straight cash. I'd use Zola, the Knot honeymoon fund, Honeyfund, or something of that sort despite the fee. The fees are unavoidable. We used the Knot's version and a few people contributed there, but most got the hint and simply gave us checks. Besides our physical registry, we maybe got 3 or 4 of the "honeymoon activities" that we registered for and the rest gave us checks.

Your guests will know that gifts are optional without you having to tell them. And most people know that money is a lovely gift. I would just put a link to your registry on your website. People will either buy you something from the website or give you a check or cash, just as wedding guests have been doing for many years. No need to complicate it with middleman cash collecting websites that charge fees or any sort of statement about what is and isn't optional.

I promise you people will bring you gifts (including money) and they already know how do to do it.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I think I'm just overthinking it!

View Quoted Comment Oh, people just typically bring cash or checks to the wedding in a card. I would just have a card box on a table so that guests can drop them in. That's what we did. Then, after the wedding, my husband and I opened all the cards and read all the sweet notes and wrote down everyone who gave us a gift so we knew who to send thank you cards to. Then we deposited the checks/cash into our bank account.

I wish I could delete this forum because now I'm embarrassed at how stupid my concern/question was lol

View Quoted Comment There is no wording. You don’t mention it. Don’t register and people will get the hint and gift cash without being asked for it.

View Quoted Comment It's ok! I guarantee plenty of other people have had or will have the same exact question! There are no stupid questions 😁. I'm sorry it took us all a bit to get at what exactly you were asking, but I hope we were able to answer it for you. Never hesitate to ask a question on here! That's what this forum is all about!

So where I live we only do cash gifts for weddings, but for bridal showers we do a registry and the info goes right on the invite. Now since I will have a gift registry and honeymoon registry the invite will have the info to my wedding website which will have links to both. So maybe just put a link to your wedding website and the tab for registry info will be there along with hotel block info, transportation, local things to do.


To get around paying a fee we did it directly through our travel agent. A link was created with our reservation number and any gifts go directly to our balance, no fees.

Most definitely gift info doesn’t go on the invitations. The only thing that is on our website is the honeymoon fund. We own our home & don’t need anything for it. People have asked if we’re registered anywhere & I’ve told them no, that we’re only doing a honeymoon fund. All of them are so relieved- no shopping to do!

View Quoted Comment Do you mind sharing what website you used for your honeymoon fund?

View Quoted Comment I used The Knot. On the registry tab, there are several options to choose from.