Honeymoon Fund

You can just not register or only register for a few items. In many circles, people give cash or checks as wedding gifts at the reception, and that money can be used however you would like, without a middle man taking any fees.

Agree with Hannah. Just don’t create a registry, and most people get the hint and give you cash or checks inside of cards and envelopes on the day of. Have a card box out at your reception with a lock on it. If you’re having a day-of coordinator, they can help keep an eye on it.

View Quoted Comment Thank you both ladies! I plan to have a birdcage for envelopes but wanted to give the option of an online payment as well as I know some prefer it. I can have them zelle it for free but it doesn’t link to our savings account (only checking) and don’t want it comingle honeymoon funds. Hoping maybe there’s something out there.

Try making a QR code that would link to a Paypal account! You can add the QR code to your invitations (if you have not already mailed them out), on your website, and/or put it on a sign near your cardbox. 99% of the time, if you do not have a registry with gifts, guest will assume to gift you cash/checks the day of the wedding. But the QR could be a good back up for those who did not.

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Personally, I'd stick with the more traditional approach of saying nothing -- traditionally, saying or doing anything that directly suggests a request of monetary gifts can be a major etiquette breach. In many circles, without any prodding, most guests give cash or checks in a card. If your close (and younger?) guests want to do a direct cash transfer, they may well have your Zelle/Venmo/etc. info from times they've paid you back at restaurants, etc. If others want that info, they'll reach out to you. Some guests might find a QR code very off-putting -- especially on an invitation or a sign next to the card box. Daughter and SIL received several thousand dollars in cash and checks without making any suggestions and didn't risk offending guests who might find a more direct approach rude.

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There’s a website called TravelersJoy where people can pay directly by credit card into an account fund. If you google “honeyfund websites” there’s an article from TheKnot.com that compares the top 8 websites offering these options, with notes about any related fees and deposit options.



Sentimental guests may want to give something that you’ll look back at 10 years from now as a wedding gift, in addition to any money they also want to give. You could offer both if there’s anything you two need/want- nice luggage, furniture, artwork, etc.
There’s a lot of wording on how to politely request money gifts if you google it. Something like- In lieu of a traditional registry we would be honored if you choose to support our honeymoon fund.

View Quoted Comment I saw it but we haven’t decided where to go yet and don’t want to hold up the invites

So we just left it out. We’ll stick to the traditional envelopes at the wedding

I’ve been to weddings where they have a jar at a table to collect honeymoon money that way. You could do your Venmo tag in a cute way if you want a second option besides cash.

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