Honeymoon fund, no honeymoon?

I could see where something came up and they weren't able to go on the trip anymore, and as a guest, I would be understanding of this. But if they just decided not to go and used the money for something else, I'd feel a little strange and upset. Why even tell your guests that it's a honeymoon fund, if you didn't plan on going in the first place or had a feeling you'd change your mind about it??

I'm not opposed to honeymoon funds, plenty of our friends and family have done them, but you need to be transparent and honest with guests about where that money is really going.

This is a weird one. I'm also not necessarily against honeymoon funds - but personally, I'm in the grey area of not wanting to outwardly ask for that money, more so just hoping for and accepting cash and gift cards in the place of gifts - we are on the fence about a registry.

But I do find it pretty weird that someone getting married in France would need to ask for a honeymoon fund - I can only imagine it was extremely expensive for everyone, especially the bride and groom. It would have com across really rude to me to be asked to fund anything after being asked to go (and pay for) a trip to France for a wedding. My thoughts would be "You can afford a France wedding, but can't afford to pay for your guests travel expenses, and THEN ask for more money for your honeymoon, AND THEN not even use it for your honeymoon?"

I don't know, all of these things together would have rubbed me the wrong way, for sure.

Yeah I think people would probably have given cash gifts either way once they affirmed that they weren't going to have a registry

This is exactly how I feel honestly, it's everything together

I agree with this. I found out my friends used the option on Zola where you just get cash for everything. So I thought I was buying them a set of dinner plates, but I actually just sent them $100 in cash. They ended up not buying the plates and lots of the other stuff, and that did hurt my feelings a tiny bit. They also had some really expensive items, so now I know they were just getting $500 cash out of older family members who thought it would be nice to get them a dutch oven or silver platter.

As usual, I agree with Caytlyn 100%. Honeyfunds suck and this is a huge reason why. Plus a percentage was taken out of the chunk of cash they got. If there's no registry, it's pretty obvious they prefer cash and it's much less tacky way of getting it.

Yeah this describes my feelings well. I felt like they didn't understand how heavy a burden the travel and lodging expenses were for guests because for them it was so much cheaper than the big wedding they were considering here at home

Agree with this

These are my thoughts exactly! My FH and I have thought hard about even doing a registry because we literally do not meed anything. If we wanted a new Kuerig, we'd just go buy one. We don't want o register for unnecessary gifts for the sake of having a registry, so we are hoping people just give cash or gift cards, because we would use and enjoy that.

My problem with a honeymoon fund is I shouldn't be paying for your lavish vacation. It should already be taken care of before the wedding. If you're using the 'honeymoon fund' as extra spending cash for souvenirs or extra adventures that's cool, but your guests shouldn't be the one footing the bill for your vacation, especially not if I've already spent $4k to get to your wedding in the first place.